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what is the point of sleepovers?

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MateyM00 · 10/06/2012 10:22

Last night DD (8) had two friends to sleep over, both are only children just like dd.

Anyway, they did the usaual sleepover things then settled to bed a 10, but they were so excited they couldnt sleep.

on child nodded off at midnight but DD and the other child were still chatting and giggling at 3.30 this morning.

DH gruffily said, thats the last time she has a sleepover.... I said, i think its quite sweet actually, they arent doing any harm.

so they were up at 8 this morning and i got up with them. DH stayed in bed till 9 and now he has gone out in a huff.

so... is he being unreasonable and missing the point of sleepovers or
am I being unreasonable asking him to put up with giggling girls at 3.30 in the morning?

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PeanutButterCupCake · 10/06/2012 10:28

It's part of growing up having sleepovers Smile

I loved them as a kid.

It's only one night, DH is being a misery Grin

larks35 · 10/06/2012 10:29

I'm with your DH here, I'd be cross if 8yos were keeping me awake at 3.30am, I'd be cross if 18yos were doing it too. I might just be a bit grumpy though due to DD 9wo waking me at 3.30 for feeding every night, she won't be having any sleepovers - ever Grin

WhiteWidow · 10/06/2012 10:30

DH needs to stop being miserable. It's a fun thing, not something you'd allow all the time mind.

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MateyM00 · 10/06/2012 10:31

thats what i thought too.

at christmas she woke up at 3 and wanted to open her pressies ( bless her she always asks first!) and he grumped that it was 3 o'clock.

i said yes it is and we will go back to sleep afterwards!

Do you think i would be being unreasonable if i kicked him out for a night so that DD could have a fun sleepover without being wined at all night?

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bigjoeent · 10/06/2012 10:32

You're all missing the point about sleepovers, its when the favour is returned and you manage to offload your child somewhere else and have a nice night. Grin

HappySquirrel · 10/06/2012 10:34

As long as you tell your daughter to use their "nighttime whispering voices" and make sure sleepovers rotate with the other friends' houses I think your DHIBU. How often will this happen? A couple of times per year? I think I had maybe one per month for a while when I was little but they were with different friends and at different places.

usualsuspect · 10/06/2012 10:34

The point is , kids enjoy them and memories of childhood are made.

Tell him to stop being a misery guts.

jubilucket · 10/06/2012 10:36

The only way to cope with sleepovers at that age is to embrace them... I had six 9 year olds for ddtwins birthday, I deliberately made no plans to achieve anything the next day as they'd all be like death warmed up. DP hid in the attic, I slept next door to them, sure enough three turned up around 12.30 wanting to actually sleep while the other three continued giggling, so I put the quiet three into that double bed and moved to a sofa, silence finally reigned around 2 a.m. but the sleepy ones were up by 7.30.

They all had a wonderful time and we've had return matches several times, although never all six at the same time again, mainly due to logistics rather than 'never again'!

jubilucket · 10/06/2012 10:37

xposted, yanbu to persuade DH that he'd love to have a night elsewhere while his dd entertains her mates.

boaty · 10/06/2012 10:37

I think the problem is calling them sleepovers! I think your DH probably took that to mean they would sleep! poor innocent man Grin

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MateyM00 · 10/06/2012 10:38

they were so sweet whispering an giggling, i suppose we hear what we want to hear... he probably heard a racket!

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GnocchiNineDoors · 10/06/2012 10:39

Next time stick them all downstairs in the loungr to sleeo so they dont keep you and dh awake.

KatieScarlett2833 · 10/06/2012 10:40

I love a good sleepover. This is good because I have them every weekend. I find earplugs for sleep and i-pod book for the waking hours is my best survival tip.

Apoundinatin · 10/06/2012 10:43

Yep, what others have said. The whole point of sleepovers is reciprocation!!

Maryz · 10/06/2012 10:46

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KatieScarlett2833 · 10/06/2012 11:34

Both of mine were away last night and this morning Maryz

So imported a toddler to fill in the time aching void and avoid having to watch football with DH.

I'm hopeless, am I not?

Maryz · 10/06/2012 11:37

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KatieScarlett2833 · 10/06/2012 11:40

I tried, his DB even offered him tv and beer around his with their mates.

But nooooooooooooo.

Maryz · 10/06/2012 11:42

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whatlauradid · 10/06/2012 11:44

DH is being a misery guts. If this isn't a regular occurence and they weren't being too loud I don't see the problem. I used to love sleepovers as a child and would rarely sleep. We used to have midnight feasts like in the books I used to read and play games like truth or dare...

Those were the days!

cory · 10/06/2012 11:45

Of course there is no point in sleepovers. Just as there is no point in adult parties, trips to the pub, nights out with the lads. We all need something extra in our life that isn't about a point and isn't exactly good for us.

KatieScarlett2833 · 10/06/2012 11:46

YY Maryz

Then you get to miss them till the next time (a fortnight, am counting).

ariadne1 · 10/06/2012 11:50

As they get miore used to them, they get less excited and sleep more. Promise!

FairToMiddlin · 10/06/2012 11:51

There is no sleep in sleepovers.

Fact.

squeakytoy · 10/06/2012 11:52

you do sound a bit indulgent OP...