Aibu to tell my dd that she can't have her nose pierced unless she pays for it

[julieann42]

DD is 16, soon to be 17 and wants her nose pierced! I have said I don't like but I can't stop her but I don't want her to use my ones to pay for it. AIBU to make her get a job first in order to pay for it....I know jobs aren't that easy to come by but she doesn't seem to make much effort so I thought the idea about the nose might encourage her further.... I have told her if she uses money I have given her then she won't get another pennny from me...so no trips to nandos after college with the mates and no make up.

YANBU. She is old enough to pay for it herself. A bit of incentive never did anyone any harm

Ones should say my money! My spelling gets worse and I haven't had any wine yet!

yanbu
no way would I pay
ds had to wait until he had his own money.

YANBU

But if she's capable of getting a job and there are jobs around...why are you paying for her to go to Nandos etc?

Surely at her age she should be working to fund her social life herself anyway?

Yanbu DD1 wanted tongue lip and tragus ( i dont even know what that is ) i said knock yourself out dear you can pay it with your own money now late teen and nothing is pierced, she has large holes in her ears those tunnel things but she did that with her own money,

you may want to mention to her that if she gets a job, and then gets her nose pierced, she may well get asked to take it out

YANBU. At all.

I thought ones was the new word for money that I was not cool enough to have heard! Good job you said or I might have started saying it

OH i got out of supporting DD tattoo by informing her she wouldnt be able to give blood for a year if she got it done

Yanbu

Also tell her she will need enough for the bus fare to the doctors in case it gets infected as you are having nothing to do with it!

Tragus is the little hard bit of the ear that connects to the face (if that makes sense).

YANBU......of course she should have to pay for it herself!

YANBU at all. I'd secretly be hoping that having earned her own money she'd decide to spend it on something else too!

Oh ok lucie thanks , dont know why that needs pierced

I've told dd (age 17) similar. If she wants her nose pierced she can pay for it. I was willing to pay for her to have her ears pierced ages ago but she backed out.

Yanbu if she wants it done then she pays for it, but do you think she would use any birthday money

Worra I have funded the social life as she hasn't got a job yet despite looking for one, allegedly ! However I thought the incentive of getting the nose pierced might encourage her job seeking attempts

Sarcalogos..I like your style

Grahamtribe..I am hoping that she might spend it on something else or even that work won't allow so she gives up her idea of a nose piercing

Ahh I see > Good thinking!

I've got everything pieced. I had most of it done at about 15. My mum payed for a few and I payed for a few. She dared me to have my tongue done and she'd pay. She didn't think I'd do it

DD works in a supermarket at the weekend and they cant have face piercings not sure about nose , I know this isnt about her social life but maybe nandos is looking for staff she doesnt really need a job if you are giving her money

i had to pay to get my belly button pierced when i was 17. my mum said it was tacky she may have had a point
did me no harm. hate piercings now (except ears). but every so often a bit of yellow comes out of my belly button to remind me of those days.
at least a nose piercing isn't going to get bigger with pregnancy and then shrivel up afterwards, plus when she gets bored of it (which she will) she can cover it with make up.
my daughters aren't allowed piercings though. ever.

She gets money from me for college and a few trips out with her mates, doesn't go clubbing or anything. I would object to her using that money for nose piercing

YANBU, OP. Besides, if it's too difficult to get a job she might forget about the idea, or if she does get a job, she might value her earnings so much that she won't get it. I remember the hardest question my mother had to say no to when I was sixteen was which A levels I would go on to take and how many parties I could attend after the exams. We now have to worry about nose piercings and hepatitis/septicaemia too?? Not looking forward to the teen years! (lol)

Does she get an allowance from you? If so, then once you give it to her it is her money, is it not? Or is she asking for the specific money to pay for it?

I had mine done at 14 and used my pocket money. It was my money to do with what i liked. You don't give people money then tell them what to spend it on.