to make the kids pay for their lunch obtained by deception?

[DysonsAreForever]

OK so it's half term, for a treat I said to the DCs (12 & 14) that we'd go to pizza hut buffet for lunch, they were thrilled. However all the way there they were tittering at some private joke which they refused to share with me. Turns out they went there yesterday with their dad (we're divorced) but they conspired not to tell me because they knew we would have gone somewhere else if I'd known (am not a great PH fan).

I'm so cross, have sent them to the cashpoint with their teenaccount cashcards to get a tenner each to pay me back! Am wondering now if I've overreacted.

AIBU to make them pay for the lunch?

Well it's spoilt now anyway

I'd have gone to a nice indian buffet!

I assume that they know you wouldn't have taken them to Pizza Hut IF YOU'D KNOWN they'd been the day before. If your ex P's anything like my DH he'd let the DC's live on pizzas and similar which is very annoying.
Anyway, it's very rude of your DC to be sniggering between themselves.
At least next time you'll know to ask them first... as Teacup said.

fair do's you got a chocolate bar out of them, I wouldn't take their money though, you must be able to see the funny side now you've calmed down a bit little gits lol

I think you should either give back the £20 or treat them to something nice with it.

Why is it deception?

Have you given them their money back?

Oops, I see that the DCs know you wouldn't have taken them. Very sneaky of them. I'd be annoyed too.

Och, take the choc and give them their money back. You know you're overreacting.

OTT ! why was it deception they were a bit cheeky because dad had taken them but to make them pay is a bit mean,

Yes, it's very rude of them. I wouldn't have taken them until they told me what they were laughing at.

Oh come on, it was cheeky and one of those things you will laugh about in years to come when they are older. Give them their money back - you wanted to treat them and you did

WTF? Poor kids.

YABU, and the most childish person at that lunch.

If you don't give them that £20 back for being nice kids you are a mean old mean meanie who's just being mean.

perhaps they have spat on the chocolate

Poor kids :(

YABU! Give them their bloody money back you caah.

sounds like you are cross with their dad for treating the kids to the treat YOU had chosen and you are taking it out on them.

doesn't matter if you don't really like PH you didn't eat it 2 days in a row, you have only been the once, that you had already decided yourself.

I would have just laughed

That wasn't deception! You asked them!!!

Who cares if their da took them?
Or do you like to get one up on him?

Yabu

I hope this is a joke? If it is not a wind-up then you're definitely being unreasonable.

Give them their money back! Yes they were a teeny bit sneaky not telling you, but the offer of a treat should not be conditional on them not having the same treat with their Dad.

The fact that they came back with treats for you as well as the money means they are being, right now, nicer than you are, IMHO.