To have thrown a fag end over the hedge into my neighbour's garden?

[SoupDragon]

So, neighbour knocks on the door asking if he can come in and trip his hedge. Fine. He goes away to collect his gear and comes back 10 mins later.

He then proceeds to spend some time in my garden smoking a fag and treading it out on my lawn.

So I went down there when he'd gone, found the fag end and threw it over the hedge into his immaculately kept garden in a petulant, childish fashion.

My neighbour's son used to smoke out of his bedroom window and then chuck the fag ends onto my drive. His mates used to do the same and they never puit the fags out first. So one day because I felt like it, I collected them all up and threw them onto their drive.

A few hours later there was a lovely mother/son row going on about the amount of fag butts he chucked out of his window. He shouted back "It's not me, it must be that cow nextdoor cos' I always chuck mine onto her garden."

His mother shouted at him more.

My neighbours drop fag ends off their step into our garden and also their rubbish bags fall into our garden.

They are really snooty and up their own arses as well!

Bastards.

YANBU

Cockrobin - of course one should ask before smoking on someone else's property, indoors or out.

Pancake, we have the same thing with the teens next door smoking in the carport then throwing the butts onto our side path, chuck 'em back over for bloke next door to deal with his kids and their mates

Aaaah teens next door

Our old neighbours sons were great. One Xmas Dh and I ended up bickering about how much beer we had got through before Xmas. We had it stored in a lean to we had to keep it cold.

It was then we realised the boys had been hopping over the fence and nicking the odd can when both we and their parents were out.

Rather then get them into bother, I left a note saying

"We know what you're doing"

We got one back saying

"Does that mean we have to stop?"

How attractive is your neighbour?DH reckons he's trying to look cool to pull you!

LOL. Mid 50s and balding :)

Arf! (He may still be trying though... )

Fenton........... don't forget to throw some paint over the pigion first, then you can shoot it and throw it over the fence.

Well, he's pitched it wrong as smoking would be a deal breaker for me [shudder]

I was idly wondering whether those who think it OK for someone to smoke in your garden without asking think it's OK for them to piss in your garden without asking too...? Everyone has a different idea of what's acceptable and, for me, smoking in my garden when you were in your garden 2 minutes earlier and are only going to be here for 15 minutes is really rude.

Although it was the stamping out of the butt on my lawn and leaving it there that annoyed me the most. He can cut his hedge fro his own side in future TBH.

I think it's rude if it's a stranger's garden, but I wouldn't think it rude if it was someone I knew, and knew to be a smoker as long as they cleared up after themselves and didn't go crushing butts everywhere and leaving marks.

I've never heard of it being rude to smoke in someone's garden that you know. It's not in the same league as pissing in someone's garden at all.

We don't really know each other. We speak perhaps once a year at Hedge Trimming time and occasional pleasantries when shovelling snow. This is London. Due to odd gardens, he's not my next door neighbour housewise, only for the back half of the garden. I do talk to my house-neighbours more regularly :)

I do put it on a par with pissing in someone's garden though - both fine on your own property, not fine in someone else's. especially when you're there for 20 minutes, 5 of which were fag smoking. I'd feel the same kind of if he'd sat down and had a beer before starting too. Anyway, it was more the littering that pissed me off, I was just stunned that he needed a fag in my garden in such a short space of time. Clearly he's a junkie.

Hedge trimming entirely for his benefit, not mine.

I would have left it, not done it myself :) I am not a pristine hedge kind of girl... unlike the neighbours (one of whom clearly isn't a girl though).

They obviously like a nicely trimmed bush hedge.

If he'd offered to mow the lawn he could have thrown fag ends wherever he liked TBH.

But he didn't. Even though I apologised for the long grass and mentioned that the mower had broken and I was unable to mow it. Bastard.