To have thrown a fag end over the hedge into my neighbour's garden?

[SoupDragon]

So, neighbour knocks on the door asking if he can come in and trip his hedge. Fine. He goes away to collect his gear and comes back 10 mins later.

He then proceeds to spend some time in my garden smoking a fag and treading it out on my lawn.

So I went down there when he'd gone, found the fag end and threw it over the hedge into his immaculately kept garden in a petulant, childish fashion.

YANBU, but I bet he doesn't notice.

I'd be a bit hoiky if someone smoked a fag in my garden without checking if it was ok first, but as yours is mahoosive, maybe he either thought you wouldn't notice or just thought it was ok as he was 150ft away from the house?

Doing someone a favour doesn't entitle you to be an arse. (sends memo to mil)

Maybe his partner has banned him from smoking in their garden - or thinks he's given up - so he was being crafty having a fag over at yours?

YANBU

And I'm loving the idea of a swanky habit, how very upper class

"I guess there is no need to put thought into how you repay him."

LOL. I don't need to repay him - what a really odd thing to say. He trims it for his benefit, not to do me a favour. He wants his hedge to look nice from his beautifully tended garden. To reach the far side, he needs to come into my garden so I am doing him a favour really :o

I didn't spend the whole time spying on him BTW, I was emptying the dishwasher and idly thought : He's spending a long time standing about doing nothing... odd... what's that cloud of smoke...?
Then I saw him throw the butt on the floor and tread it out at which point I thought WTF?!

BTW, I have swanky habits too. Mostly involving expensive shops :o

I wondered if he'd been banned from smoking in his property but he definitely had one out in the garden earlier as I smelt it (I have a sensitive sense of smell wrt cigarette smoke). This also annoys me when I have the widows open but it's his garden and he can do what he likes in it. But he can't do it in mine.

I think he's mowed his lawn now so should have found it. He probably threw it back :o

Not that it matters, but they are actually a very nice couple, with an immaculate house and garden, which made this all the more odd.

Not sure why people seem to see it as him doing the OP a favour. If the hedge is on his side of the boundary, it's his responsibility to stop it becoming a problem to neighbours.

And YABU, but only because it might affect wildlife in his garden. I would've put it on his doorstep or something.

I was getting all prepared to tell you how unreasonable you were, thinking that it was you who was smoking the fag. Now that i see it was your neighbour I'd say no, you weren't being unreasonable at all - he sounds very impolite.

Our neighbours went away for a couple of nights leaving their 16 year old at home, who then had friends round. The first morning we found fag butts thrown over the fence, right outside our back door. Dh threw them back over.

I thought along same lines as dizzykipper.... I would be properly pissed off if anyone left their nasty fag ends in my garden!! And if he wants to trim HIS hedge then that's his business and I don't see why you should be expected to be grateful for it.

Def YANBU

I came on to say "YANBU if it belongs to your neighbour" , which it does, so therefore YANBU.

I don't smoke. I therefore don't expect to have to pick up fag buts from my own Yarden. If my neighbour threw a butt over the wall (which I am waiting for them to do as they smoke in their yard alllll theeeee tiiimmmmeeee) then back over it goes.

Change the fag end to a crisp packet, is that ok? No. Nuff said.

If he was saving me from some gardening work once a year i would have overlooked the ciggy and disposed of it myself.
My neighbors kids had a massive party last year when mum and dad were out and we ended up with loads of fag ends ,plastic cider bottles and Pot Noodle tubs (classy party) chucked over the fenceas well as a massive fight in their front green.

On that occasion I returned everything promptly and took great delight in hearing the plastic bottles thumping off their decking next morning.

sorry, my strikethrough didn't work (blush)

Right, I totally get the fag butt thing, it's not acceptable to do that, but I'm a bit at this:

I'd be a bit hoiky if someone smoked a fag in my garden without checking if it was ok first

They are outside and as long as they dispose of the butt where's the issue?

I think I would sling a crisp packet back too actually

YANBU

I am thinking of doing this with the copious piles of pigeon poo accumulating at the end of the garden due to the neighbour over the back not trimming his tree and thereby providing many shitting branches for the fat bastard shitting pigeons.

"I'd be a bit hoiky if someone smoked a fag in my garden without checking if it was ok first"

They are outside and as long as they dispose of the butt where's the issue?

Well, when they are right next to their own garden and spend almost half the time they are in yours smoking a fag, it seems rather rude.

The workmen who were in my garden all day last summer, they also dropped fag ends on the lawn. I wasn't so bothered about that because they were there all day. It's not like they could pop home. Skanky but bearable in that scenario.

Fenton, shoot the pigeons and throw those over the fence.

The distance of a hedge makes all the difference does it?

I honestly can't get over the idea of being pissed off that someone would have the audacity to smoke on your land.

I really get the bit about fag butts, I do, they shouldn't leave them everywhere but really?

Getting mad because they smoked on your land? Nuts!

Eh?

That's what the poster I quoted meant - they'd be annoyed if anyone smoked on their land without permission.

YANBU, our neighbour comes into our garden to do same, he has immaculate garden & obv likes everything tidy.