To have thrown a fag end over the hedge into my neighbour's garden?

[SoupDragon]

So, neighbour knocks on the door asking if he can come in and trip his hedge. Fine. He goes away to collect his gear and comes back 10 mins later.

He then proceeds to spend some time in my garden smoking a fag and treading it out on my lawn.

So I went down there when he'd gone, found the fag end and threw it over the hedge into his immaculately kept garden in a petulant, childish fashion.

No. You were just returning his property in a neighbourly fashion!

pahaaaa you sound like me

YANBU - that was the appropriate thing to do!

YANBU. But I don't understand, is it a boundary hedge, why he is triming your side.I am concerned i migtht have been missing a trick all these years I've been trimming 150 foot of 'them on the left's hedge

That's what I would have done too.

Hah ha good for you I feel like doing the same with the neighbours cat's shit that it leaves in my garden!!

I have no idea - he asks to come and trim it every year and I let him! I think he mainly does the top rather than the entire face of my side..

YANBU. I HATE it when smokers leave their cigarette butts all over my garden or around my doorstep (BIL I am looking at you )

We have a friend who always drops his fag ends on our lawn or stubs out on plates. I give him an ashtray on arrival and he still does it. Last summer I posted them all to him, he's trying harder now!
Yanbu

he's saving you cutting the hedge yourself. I'd be sending gifts over, not fag ends!

YANBU

I would definitely do that with cat shit! Thankfully PandaDog's garden patrols keep cats out. One of our neighbour's gardens gets hugely overgrown with thorny, brambly weeds so when they poke through or over our fence I cut what's in our garden and chuck it over into theirs (this was after giving up asking them to sort out the garden).

"I'd be sending gifts over, not fag ends!"

It was his own fag end though.

I think that, apart from thinking that's really swanky", I can't work out why he had to smoke it in my garden at all, given he was in his own garden a maximum of 10 minutes earlier and would only be here 15 minutes max.

YANBU.

YABU. You should have posted it through his letterbox!

I was going to deliver it back, with a comment/note to the effect "I think this is yours" But I am not that confrontational :o

But..... don't you think you should be thanking him for cutting the hedge, rather than, inwardly critiscising him for smoking in your garden and being petty about 'his' fag end?

YANBU. Ugh.

I hate fag ends all over the place why do people think its ok to throw fag ends everywhere. My Dads a nightmare for this we told him off for littering our garden, the next time we was over he threw them over the fence into our front garden. The worst thing is the lovely people who empty their car ash trays in supermarket car parks, boak!

Not really, 6 Monkeys. It's his hedge. If he wants to cut it that's his business - I wouldn't bother. As I don't smoke and no one in my family smokes, I'd rather he kept his swanky habit and rubbish to his own property.

If he doesn't cut the hedge on your side, won't it grow and invade more of your garden?

Not really. My garden is roughly 150ft long and 40ft wide. The hedge is in the bottom half of the garden. It would have to grow one hell of a lot to cause a problem :)

ah well then, if the overgrown hedge won't be a problem to you then you have no need to be reasonable :)

So you think it is acceptable to leave fag ends in someone's garden when you really ought to be able to cope without a fag for 20 minutes?

I reckon he actually spent longer smoking the fag than he did trimming the hedge.

Discovering a fag end in my garden wouldn't make me bat even a teeny eyelid. It just wouldn't. Nor would I even spend thinking power judging whether someone can or can not cope without a cig for 20 minutes, 2 minutes or whatever.

I have a neighbour who cuts my side of the hedge and I am truely grateful for this. I can no longer do such jobs. I just pictured your garden and neighbour being similar and so was quite shocked that you would throw back a tab end rather than thank him. But, as you say, a trimmed hedge isn't something you actually appreciate then, I guess there is no need to put thought into how you repay him.