To put DS on my shoulders at the jubilee pageant.??

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I took the DC into London to watch the flotilla. Got there by 12.30, hoping to find a spot where we could see the action. Expected it to be busy but OMG it was carnage. Security just seemed to be herding people into enclosures without exits. No information on where to go.

Finally found a spot where we could see a big screen, just as the queen started boarding. Only for some woman to have a go at me for blocking her view by putting DS, age 3, on my shoulders. As if he could see any other way ?!?! So we left, and I had a bit of a sob on the tube.

Surely having a small child on my shoulders (I'm 5 ft 5, so hardly a giant) is not unreasonable?

YABU - why didn't you hold your DS on piggyback or on your hip? If you had held DS on your hip, you still would have had a hand free for the other child.

Ilovesooty, Crumpetytree - the woman had the choice to stand elsewhere when the op put her dc on her shoulders? Just like she would have had the option to move round a 6ft person if they appeared in front of her but for whatever reason decided she couldn't move

I think YABU. She stood behind you because she could see over your head. You then put DS right in her way. She was rude if she called you a bitch, but you were being rude deliberately blocking her view and not moving aside or swapping places with her.

You clearly don't think YWBU so you can take comfort from the people who agree with you and ignore those who don't.

TBH the whole thing sounds like a nightmare. Chalk it up to experience.

There was a crush - and besides, why should she move again because someone thinks they can be entitled and selfish? One minute she can see: the next someone thinks they can put a child right in her line of sight.

The op said there was room for the woman to move to the side of her?

It's called consideration, I'm sure the op didn't deliberately block this woman's view if that had been me I would have moved to the space on the right/left problem solved not thought 'how dare she block my view!' but clearly I'm more considerate than this woman and a lot of ppl on here it seems

I saw loads of people with quite high stepladders there - they were standing right at the back though. I also saw one person call an adult women a selfish bitch for sitting on her partner's shoulders.

DCs sat on our shoulders on and off, but our neighbours were very understanding - partly because we were on the brow of a rise and anyone standing behind us would be resigned to not seeing anything anyway.

We had a lovely, if damp, time.

who was there first? you or this woman? if you were there first then sod her. she can move. if you were there secondly and blocked her view then yabu. anyways surely you saw this coming with the crowds how were you planning on getting ds to see anything??

scuzy, if the OP was there first, the point only really stands if the woman behind her chose to stand there after the DS was on shoulders, and then complained.

My assumption (and correct me if I'm wrong, OP) is that the OP had been standing there with the crowd for a while and later lifted her DS onto her shoulders, meaning that the woman behind would've had her view obscured having already stood there for some time.

It's called consideration

See, I would not have put a child on my shoulders, knowing I may block someone's view, without looking around and asking others if it was ok. I call that consideration.

clearly I'm more considerate than this woman and a lot of ppl on here it seems

Smug much?

yeah thats true Tidydancer. i still dont get why you took young kids to these crowds. abolute misery for them sniffing ass and looking at legs all day!

Knowitall- not smug at all just shocked at how rude some people are being to the op, we obviously have different ideas of consideration, had I been there I would have thought 'it's a small child they want to see the boats I'm a grown up I can move a few inches

And I would have though, 'I am going to obstruct someone's view, I will do this in the most considerate way I can' before effectively changing my height by a few inches.

Both considerate in different ways. So I think we can agree that both the OP AND the woman could have been more considerate.

But that it was the OP who was inconsiderate first

Maybe she just hates kids

Id gather she just didn't think about it being an issue initially, some people are far taller than the height of the op and her dc I wonder if it had been a 6'5 person who came along and blocked her view would she still have made an issue or just moved to one side?

Fair point Hilda

she just didn't think

Hit the nail on the head.

I doubt it's kids she hates, just entitled parents.

A 3 y.o. will remember zero from the whole spectacle. The other woman would have had high hopes of making a big day out of it, so YABU. She was cross, you are cross. you should have stayed at home and watch the silly thing on telly.

Op, you were being very very unresonable.

YANBU
I would have told her to fuck off... probably

YABVU. Hold your child on your hip so that his eye level is the same as yours, but don't expect that your child's right to a view is any bigger than anyone else's, even if they are an adult.

knowitall not a person alive who isnt guilty of that

I watched it on telly under a blanket with a cuppa!

YANBU.

Lots of people on here disagree with you but they all smell and wear Peter Storm Kagoules.