To put DS on my shoulders at the jubilee pageant.??

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I took the DC into London to watch the flotilla. Got there by 12.30, hoping to find a spot where we could see the action. Expected it to be busy but OMG it was carnage. Security just seemed to be herding people into enclosures without exits. No information on where to go.

Finally found a spot where we could see a big screen, just as the queen started boarding. Only for some woman to have a go at me for blocking her view by putting DS, age 3, on my shoulders. As if he could see any other way ?!?! So we left, and I had a bit of a sob on the tube.

Surely having a small child on my shoulders (I'm 5 ft 5, so hardly a giant) is not unreasonable?

In putting her child on her shoulders she didn't think of others. The sense of entitlement overcame consideration for other people.

A bit like the woman changing her baby's nappy on a table in the cafe I was in the other day - same principle. The vast number of parents who would never do this are sometimes tarred by this behaviour.

I think you are unreasonable to have started crying and left for cripes sake!

That would have upset your ds far more than a grumpy woman asking you to move surely?

You could have moved somewhere else.

And I can see both sides, I'm 5'2" and my heart always sinks when someone tall or someone with a child on their shoulders is in front of me at any event.

Ps I don't believe she called you a bitch.

Why do people who start threads like this always have to exaggerate. It's always 'and then she called me a bitch/my child a spoilt brat'.

Yeah, sure.

I do get that she had an equal right to see.

So you wouldn't have objected if she had been in front of you and had suddenly climbed onto a stool she had brought for the purpose?

We saw people who had bought step ladders northey, I quite admired their ingenuity

I honestly would've moved to the back if I had any desire to do what the OP did. That's the only reasonable way if you intend to do something that is otherwise going to annoy people.

Which ties in, I guess, with your sense that having your child on your shoulders is a reasonable thing to do.

This thread is bonkers
Since when has it become unreasonable to put a small child on your shoulders?
And then to question the op because she has the nerve to post from a

And I don't believe you saw people with stepladders. Are you getting it yet? Will it make any difference or will you e

...expect to do the same thing in future?

Oh ffs yourself

Read the 'museum post' properly and my subsequent one.

I think it became unreasonable to put a small child on your shoulders whenever people started doing it and blocking the view of 30-40 people behind the golden child.

I think it's unreasonable to put your child on your shoulders if it blocks someone's view.

At 4'11, I probably wouldn't bother going unless I could be absolutely certain of being near the front.
Panda; I wouldn't have moaned at you but unless I could shift a bit to see round I would probably have asked (politely) if I could go in front of you.
Therein, yanbu to want your DS to see but as someone else said, couldn't you have given him a piggyback?

yabu to go to the darned thing on a day like today,its pissing down and cold,i have had a nice day with dc watching films and making cakes. yum.

The person selling jubilee periscopes must have made a killing....

Yanbu

The woman sounds as tho she was just being stubborn and annoyed, if you were 6ft would she have asked you to stoop?!

I did.
What's your point?
The ops children dangerously under supervised whilst scummy mummy using her phone - gasp
Ffs backatcha

My oh and ds1 both well over average height. Best they stay indoors for fear of blocking a view.
One of them = one of me + small child on shoulders.

It's obvious it is going to annoy people if you put your child on your shoulders at something like this. I'm sure that if it would have been easy for the woman to move to a different spot in order to see she would have done this, but you've admitted it was a crush. If you want to do this you need to go and stand at the back so you are not obscuring the view of everyone behind you. This would have annoyed me too.

if you were 6ft would she have asked you to stoop?!

Being 6ft tall is not a choice. Obscuring somone else's view is.

It's besides the point the view would have still been blocked.

I don't think it's beside the point at all. The fact is that the OP wanted to know if she was BU to choose to obscure someone's view, so I think the distinction is pertinent.

If someone is 6 ft then a short person can choose not to stand behind them in the first place. If someone is say 5 ft 4 and people stand behind them and then they put a child on their shoulders which obscures peoples' view then it is not unreasonable for them to feel annoyed that they suddenly can't see any more.

OP, i to think YABU.

But i was wondering when you left did you continue to carry you DC on your shoulders through the crowds and similar as you entered the area. You have said many times that your child was at risk of being trampled and i find it really hard to believe that this was the case.

Blimey, it sounded awful! I don't think I'd have taken mine when that young, they don't really give a chuff, do they.