To put DS on my shoulders at the jubilee pageant.??

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I took the DC into London to watch the flotilla. Got there by 12.30, hoping to find a spot where we could see the action. Expected it to be busy but OMG it was carnage. Security just seemed to be herding people into enclosures without exits. No information on where to go.

Finally found a spot where we could see a big screen, just as the queen started boarding. Only for some woman to have a go at me for blocking her view by putting DS, age 3, on my shoulders. As if he could see any other way ?!?! So we left, and I had a bit of a sob on the tube.

Surely having a small child on my shoulders (I'm 5 ft 5, so hardly a giant) is not unreasonable?

Oh. Just read your last post. Sounds like the miserable weather was getting to her!

Sorry, but it is/was a day out for everyone not just your family.

Why couldnt you have put him on your hip?

I had DS on my shoulders so i could hold my other DCs hand.

I'm really surprised how many mums think I wbu. Would you just no go to such an event, or are your DC really tall??

The woman wasn't wrong though. I sympathise that she upset you, and perhaps she was rude. But it wouldn't have been fair had she not seen a thing when you could've (presumably) held your DS at a more reasonable height.

Why didn't you let her take your place. Then you would have had her view but your ds could still see over her head.

YABU.

Sorry, I would never have put a DC on my shoulders in a crowd.

You can hold him and he would still have his head at the same height as yours.

Why on earth did you have to leave and ruin your day just for this?

See, the other thing is, if this had been dad put the kids on his shoulders, I ET no one would have said a cheep.

I'm actually ready to take this woman out and shoot her now - although of you really need to stand up for yourself.

Why? What difference does the gender of the parent make?

That's a strange assumption to make rj...regarding the 'dad'.

What's your reasoning?

I know personally I would have asked anyone blocking my view with a child to dip them down to shoulder height.

You think she'd have started on a bloke and called him bitch?

I know personally I would have asked anyone blocking my view with a child to dip them down to shoulder height

So would I.

I expect she would have called him a bastard.

You think she'd have started on a bloke and called him bitch?

No, probably a dick or a twat perhaps

But bitch would sound plain weird

I think YABU and selfish.having a 3 yo on your shoulders would addmore that 7 inches to your height, but also to your width, at what is eye level for the person behind.why didn't you give him a piggy back?

I don't think you were being unreasonable, but I don't think you should have let your family day out be ruined by one miserable woman in the crowd.

Would u have asked someone 6ft tall to kneel ?

See, I don't think she would have called him anything, I think she was having a bad day, was cold and cramped, and picked on someone who looked vulnerable when she could easily have moved to the side according to op and seen.

I don't think it's actually got anything to do with child on shoulders - although I would have been quite happy to allow shoulders to accommodate a person who was waist height, bearing in mind that I couldn't hold a three year old for long but could put them on my shoulders for a bit.

But in this case, I think it's just someone in a foul mood being bullying to someone else. According to op, she did not politely ask her to move the child, she had a go.

Gah.

Being 6ft tall is not a choice.

If I had held DS on my hip he wouldn't have seen a thing.

Clearly the event was not for families. Stupid me for trying to give the DC a nice experience

Your DS is more than seven inches tall though, yes?

He would've been at your height though, wouldn't he? Roughly speaking.

I know you wanted him to have a fantastic view, but this doesn't trump everyone else's wants.

I think she was rude, but to answer your questions yes you were being unreasonable, and no, I wouldn't take my DC to an event like this if they were that small & I was looking after two. You've described it as a 'crush' which is what I would expect tbh.

Of course the event was for families...it was for everyone

And if you'd got there earlier, this might no have happened.

I'd just chalk it down to experience if I were you.

I'm having doubts though that you left just because this woman was rude, I think it was more to do with the cold, the rain and the crowds etc.

These overcrowded events are enough to make anyone miserable...especially with two kids in tow.

tidy he's 92cm standing. I don't know what that is in inches. But sitting on my shoulders I really doubt we were taller that 6 ft. He was resting his chin in my head II could measure later