Snoozy, thanks for the moderate tone of your reply.
However, I still disagree.
There are different stresses in different professions and the fact that someone does not have to deal with life or death situations does not mean that they are not coming under serious stress some other way.
For example - and this is going to risk outting me - my last job was at a major Russell Group uni. Whilst I was there the VC decided to slash the biomedical scientists' budget by nearly 20% and many lost their jobs.
Many researchers work on crappy temp contracts for year after year with virtually zilcho job security, few benefits, etc. It is one of the most casualized professions.
Does your consultant DH spend his late 30s worrying that in 3 months he may not have a job? Is he able to take sick leave/ annual leave without worrying that it may impact on the reference he will shortly need when he ups and takes his family 200 miles away for the next contract?
My point still is, different jobs have very demanding T&C in different ways. No, researchers don't deal with life or death directly. But IME they are very high qualified, they do work very long hours, and with frightful levels of security. Drs have their own stresses but are largely well-paid and secure in their jobs.
I'm going to stop posting now, though, because I don't think you or some of the other drs/ drs' wives on this thread get it or care. It is precisely this level of 'But I'm a doctor, I'm different' attitude which gets up my nose when dealing with some drs IRL and which seems so entrenched on this thread.