To think my ex-SIL should STFU and that my parenting should not be criticised because

[fuckarama]

I don't take my 10-year old DD to get her legs waxed?

So at what point does the ex and his family slagging you off to the kids become something you can do something about?

Altogether too many something's in that post

You would stop your kids going on a holiday with their family to spite your SiL for a comment she made?! Really?

Grips need to be got!

You really need to calm down about this OP, you are getting it all out of proportion and if you react like you seem to be planning to then it may come back and bite you on the arse. I've no doubt that there is a back story and that this is the straw that broke the camel's back but to go off on one like this following a suggestion that your 10 year old should have leg waxing will make you look like the bonkers person they no doubt like to paint you as. Pick your battles!

Of course your ex-SIL is totally in the wrong to question your parenting decisions over taking a 10 year old for leg-waxing but it's just leg-waxing, she's not suggesting belly-button piercing, hair extensions or a spray tan. And as for your ex if he's anything like my DB - who has a 14 year old daughter - he won't have the first clue as to what is appropriate for what age. He's a great dad but he leaves all the 'women's stuff' up to her DM. Your ex might not have realised he was even supposed to pull her up on it. Unless you've had that conversation with him then it's unfair to blame him for what his sister said.

I started shaving my legs when I was 10/11. I thought I was hairy. I was. My DM may have disagreed but I've no idea as it didn't occur to me to ask permission.

And when I say your reaction might bite you on the arse I'm talking about your blocking your DDs going on holiday with your ex. Doing that is spiteful and if they ever find out why - which they will if you rant at your ex - then you will quickly become the baddie. Is it really worth all this angst for a comment about leg waxing? Surely a cutting remark to your ex about how his sister talks bollocks should be enough?

I was on your side until you got as bad your ex-SIL. You are as loony as her.

I'm just confused why you would give so much of a crap about that kind of a comment from her, she sounds like complete moron.

I don't see a problem with preventing your children going on holiday at the same time as woman who slags you off, expresses shock at normal behaviour. Their dad can quite easily take them at another time, but with luck his SIL won't be going at the same time so their exposure to her perfidy will be minimised.

On the other hand, fuckarama, they might all change to fit in with you, and you'd have the same situation.

Personally, I think I'd just be telling the girls not to worry about what she says as she's a bit bonkers, and have a laugh with them about the latest bit of mania.

I agree with Jux. Fuckerama isn't trying to stop her dds going to her ex at the time when the big family holiday is planned, because she is spiteful - she is doing it because she doesn't want her daughters to be around someone who slags her off and criticises her parenting to her children. That seems entirely reasonable to me.

I did also grin when I read ComposHat's comment:

"YABU and I bet you haven't thought about her first tattoo or an appropriate design for her vejazzle.

Quite how nobody's called social services yet is beyond me."