To think my ex-SIL should STFU and that my parenting should not be criticised because

[fuckarama]

I don't take my 10-year old DD to get her legs waxed?

Oooh, ten million posts since I started writing that! :o

Hair removal isn't a sexual activity

squeaky, read the OP's comments before jumping on the 'female body hair is evil' bandwagon...

X post. You cannot control what others say, you can only control your reaction (and find them entertaining).

Cliche'd, but true.

I wouldn't show my annoyance to your ex, i would laugh about it to him and suggest that your SIL may have heat stroke.

While I agree that your SiL sounds annoying I think you need to chill out a bit about it for the sake of your blood pressure. You sound unreasonably angry about it. And what's the point in that?

Why would you get so angry about this? Your reaction seems over the top.

I never said it was a sexual activity.

If DD had mentioned it and wanted to do something she could have veeted like DD1.

But to tell two wee girls (especially a pre-pubescent 10 year old) that they should be telling me to take them to get their legs eased and she's shocked I'm not doing it.

WTF?

I am not jumping on any bandwagon, and I have read the OPs comments... I just dont see why the OP is so outraged and why a 10 year old could not have her legs waxed if she wanted them done.

"I doubt very much if OP's DD is bothered about her legs at that age"

If she has an older sister, she will be more aware of such things, but even without some girls are bothered and should be allowed to do something about it.

You are imposing your opinion on having hairy legs, not everyone has to live by your rules.

Children should be listened to and their problem should be viewed objectively, not subjectively.

Only if I can have front seat VIP tickets fuckarama You xsil is an idiot to say the very least. xx

You seem to be disproportionately angry. I presume there is a massive back story to this.

At 10 I was hugely self-conscious about the hairs on my legs. My mum downplayed my worries and I suffered in silence for several years.

Culturally, female hairy legs are viewed with some revulsion IMHO.

Two tickets for the front circle please.

Your SIL is BVU to comment on how you raise your daughters at all. It you wanted her advice I'm sure you'd ask for it.

(PS, will there be ice-cream sold in the interval?).

Fair enough, XSIL is sticking her beak in. If your DD isn't bothered by the hairs on her legs then there is no problem is there? Tell XSIL to mind her own.

But to those who said otherwise, some 10yr olds are bothered by hairs on their legs. My own certainly was, and was getting teased, so I Veet them for her.

Sadly our society is hair-phobic. Your ex SIL would be massively U to suggest directly to your daughter that there is anything wrong with her legs. I hope she hasn't.

I shaved my legs at about 11, because they needed to be done.

I just think its a sign of the change in times i would teach her how to do it, if it was an issue, but i wouldn't take her to get then waxed at a salon.

My DD1 started shaving her legs at 11 becuase she was self conscious aboutthem. I taught her how to do it safely

I don't think I'd take her to wax them though!

My dd2 is extremely hairy. All over. She's only 9 and kids have already started to make comments :( So far she has defelected them (brilliantly imho) but when she starts to feel uncomfortable, I will help her shave

She commented to DDs that they should be getting them waxed and that she took their cousin to get hers done.

She is apparently shocked that I don't take them.

BTW she's ex's brother's wife and doesn't consider herself the kids auntie because they are not directly related to her. The children were told not to call her aunt.

This is the latest in a long line of comments and it is the straw that broke the camel's back.

Then she shouldn't be taking your impressionable DD's out by herself at all, tbh.

If it is your ex that is allowing her to do so, then i can understand you bringing him into it.

I have relatives that would damage my DD's self esteem (and mess up their heads) if i allowed them to mix with them. I have made the chioce that i wanted to set them up with healthy attittudes first and so they haven't had contact until now, the teenage years.

I would limit contact.

She didn't take them out on her own.

It was at a family celebration.

If she is your ex's brother's wife and doesn't consider herself their aunt and you clearly don't like her, then why does she even see your children?

It was a family celebration that my ex took them do.

She is my ex's SIL - he has access and he chooses for the children to see his wider family as a part of that.

Isn't that normal? Don't people take their kids to weddings and parties?

Yeah but they don't usually discuss leg waxing at weddings and parties

She did.

oh come on, people discuss all kinds of crap things at weddings/parties!

It's an occasion where people talk about 'ooh, your hair looks nice' and 'ooh yes, I did this to it' so I can see where the topic of personal grooming might come up TBH. Not that the ex-SIL should have said what she said!!