To think my ex-SIL should STFU and that my parenting should not be criticised because

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I don't take my 10-year old DD to get her legs waxed?

Oh my God...this is the most ridiculous quandry!

Ignore. Her.

That's all you need to do.

I don't know how the conversation came up, I wasn't there, but I can say for sure that they discussed leg waxing/eyebrow waxing/hair cuts/highlights all that kind of shit.

Why is that so hard to understand?

People talk about all sorts of things. I can well imagine an 'Aunt' who likes talking about hair/makeup etc having a great audience of young girls. She shouldn't have criticised the OP though, of course.

It's naive to think ten year olds wouldn't be interested. My DD loves doing her hair and putting on make up at home, it's normal. And just as normal if they don't, before I get lynched.

She's mad! Seriously even if your DD was hairy, which she's not clearly, you just don't say anything like that. It's none of her business.

Also, wtaf at taking a none hairy 10 year old for a wax...just addles my brain that's okay? I don't think that's okay at all!

It's the fact that it's me being a bad parent by not taking her - WTF?

I can think of lots of things that might make me a bad parent, but not taking a 10 year old for a leg wax was definitely not on my list.

I feel like making up a list of utterly ridiculous things to do/not do that will make me a bad parent.

Today I have been a bad parent because I didn't take DD to get her legs waxed.

Tomorrow I'm planning on being a bad parent by not letting her get a boob job.

(Am calming down a little)

Just remember she is your exsil and you don't have to pay any mind to her shallow inanity. And then remember that her opinion is worth zilch to you, and so her idea of what constitutes a "bad parent" is also worth zilch to you. That way, it's easier to pity her for her shallow inanity (yes I know I've repeated it, I like it ) and ignore.

Unless your DDs both start asking you to take them to have their legs waxed, of course. In which case you should probably give them a quick demo of how much that would hurt to put them off.

did she actually say you were a bad parent, or did your ten year old pass this back to you...?

Maybe she said 'Oh really?' and it's got translated into 'I'm shocked!! Your mum is a totally bad parent'.

According to DD1 she said she was shocked. And cannot understand why I am not taking the girls to get their legs waxed. I should be. Why am I not? I should be made to take them.

Plus some other shit that leaves me in no doubt she thinks I'm a bad parent.

Ask her why she hasn't dyed her dd's hair blue. It is compulsory once leg waxing has taken place and must be done within 2 years of the first waxing or the Wax Police come and get you.

Which is why you're going to wait until your dd's are older as the school will exclude them if they go in with blue hair. She obviously doesn't care about her child's education; presumably the girl is set to marry a footballer by the time she's 18 and clearly your exSIL shouldn't allow education to interfere with that.

Oh it only applies if you have the first waxing when you're a minor. Worry not.

I'm about to do something I never thought I'd do.

This really is the straw that broke the camel's back and when he phones me shortly to discuss summer holiday arrangements ( because discussing them before the start of June is anal and controlling by me and he refuses to discuss prior to that) I'm thinking of telling him he can't have it all his own way.

I know, because the kids have told me, that he has talked to the ex-in laws about them all going away on holiday together.

I intend to say "That doesn't work for me" or similar to stop any contact with his family if I can help it.

Maybe.

I need a set of MN balls

Have mine, they're massive (they swelled enormously once I had to start going to school with blue hair).

Don't think you need to have a go at your ex about it tbh he can't control her

I'll tell anyone that my ex SIL is a dirty cheating slapped who hits her kids

But my BIL is mortified

She totally is btw

Also stopping access to the kids DAD because his SISTER said stuff is petty, vindictive and awful

Not letting them go on holiday with their dad out of pure spite is VU and just as disgusting as her behaviour

Oh no, I'm not going to stop his access, I'm just going to be awkward over his weeks for the summer so they don't coincide with when they all want to go away.

I'd never ever stop his access.

But that's fucking spiteful

It's not his fault he has a bitch of a sister

SIL

yes. I know. But this is the tip of the iceberg and the straw that broke the camels back.

There's a massive back story going back years and years.

Why is it you ex's fault about your bitchy SiL?

Just want to say that I didn't even think about waxing/shaving legs at aged 10 - I had better things to do like ride my bike. I thought all this shaving/self pruning malarky started aged 12/13?

I shaved at 10 but I was/ am a hairy munter lol

On this you shouldn't be awkward about holidays as its bit your exes fault.

They are two seperate people.

I'm not going to agree with you because there is 'back story' to be dropped out and I am not psychic.

So... In conclusion
Bitchy ex sister inlaw is BU
And you are being equally U in your deliberate fuckig up of their holiday plans out of spite

Because he won't stand up to them. Ever. About anything.

What could he do about it anyway though?

He is your ex,
They are her opinions (even though they are clearly stupid opinions)

You can't really ever hope to control other people's actions or inappropriate mouthing off

All YOU can do is be the bigger person and not be eaten by spite/ hatred

The best revenge you can get it to be happy and healthy and have happy and healthy kids

YABU and I bet you haven't thought about her first tattoo or an appropriate design for her vejazzle.

Quite how nobody's called social services yet is beyond me.