AIBU to ask neighbour to move their newly erected trampoline?

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I haven't asked yet as they put it up yesterday for their DS's birthday and then had a party. But, would ibu to ask them to move it to the other side of garden. At the moment it is at the bottem of garden on a raised wooden platform next to our garden. We have two problems with this:

1. We've created a lovely little seating area at bottom of garden, having planted trees etc. to make it private. This is now overlooked and disturbed by anyone on the trampoline (yesterday I found myself being checked out by a bloke while I breastfed DD!)

1. DS 3yo loves, loves, loves trampolines but we love, love, love our cottage-style garden and don't want one. This is now in constant view to DS and is likely to cause more badgering.

I was thinking of asking her to either move it to the other side of garden OR further up the garden so it isn't raised and doesn't overlook our usual seating area. I'm a bit crap at any sort of confrontation so just thought I'd gather your opinions on whether or not this would be unreasonable.

Sorry but I think YABU.

It's their garden.

Maybe it's placed on the only level part of the ground and can't go anywhere else?

Maybe it's the only place that suits them?

Difficult one. Depends how well you get on with them?

Could you erect a screen of sorts? I'd hate this, not just the lack of privacy but the noise!

A civil discussion regarding point 1 would be ok - I would be annoyed by thie trampoline being placed there too. I don't think point 2 is relevant: kids have to learn they can't get everything they want.

Yanbu to ask, you would be unreasonably to expect them to move it though. Does no harm asking (unless they are the type who would create ww3 over you asking!)

Would it overlook another neighbour if they moved it to either of those locations?

DS 3yo loves, loves, loves trampolines but we love, love, love our cottage-style garden and don't want one

Poor kid :( ... having parents who prefer their pretty garden to their child having some healthy exercise and fun.

I dont think that you can ask them to move it. Your DS wanting a trampoline and you thinking it wouldnt go withyour garden is not their problem.

They are likely to use it a lot less when the novelty wears off.

Remembering how long it took to erect our trampoline and knowing how difficult it is to move, then you'd be out of luck if you asked us.

However, if the tramp is only a small one then maybe it's slightly more in order.

No, thinking about it, I'd be pissed off if anyone asked us to change anything about our garden... Our neighbour pointed out some tall branches from our bush that she wanted us to trim because it "blocked her light." I was annoyed.

Why don't you ask if your ds can go round and play on it, meaning you don't have to get one yourself?

YABU and surely your child trumps cottage stylee garden

get him a tramp, he won't be little for long. You'll have great hulking teens lanking round the place in the blink of an eye

Yabu. It's their garden so they can place it where they want basically. Stick some lightweight trellis up along the top of the fence on that section and maybe get a tall feathery bamboo type plant to put there too. That should sort out the overlook easily enough.

Hive of bees, the novelty hasn't worth off our tramp yet and it's nearly 3 years old!

It's on a level, firm base so that it doesn't wobble or sink into the mud when it rains.
If privacy is an issue, then you need to think about creating a higher barrier between you and them.

So you were checked out by a bloke as he bounced on the trampoline? Well don't worry the sunshine won't last forever and you'll be sat indoors again with all the privacy in the world.

just tell your ds that trampolines are too dangerous and you dont want him hurting himself.

Oh, I was thinking breastfeed with one hand, water pistol in the other.

It seems odd that they've put it on a raised platform. Where we used to live we were surrounded by trampolines and I found it a huge infringement of our privacy. But I think your point 2 is unreasonable, sorry.

You could just speak to her about your point 1 and ask if she'd mind moving it, but I don't think you can insist.

I don't think there is any harm in going around to ask them if they would consider moving it - as long as you go with the attitude of 'I'm sure you didn't realise but... and we would really, really appreciate it if you could move it' . With hope but not expectation of compliance.

Point 2 is completely irrelevant and I certainly wouldn't bring it up in conversation with them.

I do think you are being a bit selfish though, you have years ahead of you to have your 'pretty little cottage garden'. DS wont always be a small child wanting to play in the garden :(

Our trampoline overlooks next door and I am aware that, for them, it would be better anywhere else in the garden. However, with the shape of our garden it would look odd anywhere else. They haven't asked if we would move it ( half expected that they would). I wouldn't mind if they did ask, but I wouldn't move it but would feel guilty

Yanbu to ask, but they would not be unreasonable to refuse.

FrancesHouseman - even for the grown-ups?

FrancesHouseman - how on earth can you be annoyed at someone asking if you could trim (or she could) a bush that is impacting on her?? Weird.

I 2nd what squeakytoy said