AIBU to ask neighbour to move their newly erected trampoline?

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I haven't asked yet as they put it up yesterday for their DS's birthday and then had a party. But, would ibu to ask them to move it to the other side of garden. At the moment it is at the bottem of garden on a raised wooden platform next to our garden. We have two problems with this:

1. We've created a lovely little seating area at bottom of garden, having planted trees etc. to make it private. This is now overlooked and disturbed by anyone on the trampoline (yesterday I found myself being checked out by a bloke while I breastfed DD!)

1. DS 3yo loves, loves, loves trampolines but we love, love, love our cottage-style garden and don't want one. This is now in constant view to DS and is likely to cause more badgering.

I was thinking of asking her to either move it to the other side of garden OR further up the garden so it isn't raised and doesn't overlook our usual seating area. I'm a bit crap at any sort of confrontation so just thought I'd gather your opinions on whether or not this would be unreasonable.

It's a tough one isn't it? Maybe the neighbours don't have anywhere in their garden that doesn't cause someone to be overlooked. If we had one in our garden it would overlook everyone and there would be nowhere else to put it, so we haven't got one.

Our neighbours have one, and they have it right down by their house so it doesn't overlook anyone.

I don't think YABU to ask them if there is any possibility of some screening to prevent you being overlooked. You could offer to pay for it - they might be more agreeable :)

Point 1 - I would be very miffed too but not sure there's much you cando apart from plant screening

Point 2 - definitely don't raise this - you will look very unreasonable. All our neighbours have dogs, ours are desperate for one, not much I can do about that.

YABU OP.

I'm sure your neighbours will have put a lot of thought into where they have placed their trampoline. They are very heavy and not easy to move once constructed.

It's their space to do as they wish.

Sorry to hear this OP, but I think you will be out of luck.
Trampolines in domestic gardens are a plague, and their owners notoriously unconcerned and selfish about the impact they can have on the neighbours.
Peaceful enjoyment of your own garden? Not a hope now.

They probably love, love, love the trampoline being at the bottom of the garden.

Yavbu and will sound so esp if you bring up point 2 which I can't see is their problem in any way

YABU. Presumably they thought about where to put the trampoline in their garden and have their reasons for putting it where they did. I wouldn't have thought they just plonked it anywhere for no reason.

It's their garden, and they are entitled to enjoy their garden space as much as you are entitled to enjoy yours. If moving it would limit them in some way then it's unfair to ask them to be inconvenienced in their garden so that you aren't inconvenienced in yours.

Unless you choose to live in a house with no neighbours nearby, you just have to put up with what other people want to do in their own gardens.

Point 2 is absolutely irrelevent.

By all means the OP could ask them to move it but just don't expect them to move it. I wouldn't if I was your neighbour.

Did they build the platform specifically for the trampoline?
If they did, they're not going to be overjoyed at the prospect of moving it are they?

You seriously cannot ask people to move a trampoline because "your DS might want one"..sorry :(

yanbu....we were careful to put ours where it would not infringe on the neighbours....it's thoughtless. Ask them.

If it's on a raised wooden platform they can hardly shift it around without huge disruption. You will only achieve a change if you go to them with a workable solution. If you approach them the day after they've erected a trampoline and are probably still exhausted they will certainly want to tell you to piss off at the least.

Point 2 is silly and sad. A trampoline is not a permanent fixture, it won't damage your precious garden. I can understand the argument that you can't afford a tramp, or that your landlord won't allow one, but it spoiling the aesthetics makes you sound oh so precious and selfish - sorry! just plant some trees around where it would go.

Is it so very wrong to be smirking at all this talk of bush trimming and insistence that all small children need their own vagrant tramp

If they knocked in and asked you to move your trees as they were attracting wildlife that are shitting in their garden would you move your trees OP?

YABU.

I think your claim you were checked out by a bloke whilst you were breastfeeding is bollocks too.

No fanjo that would be a silly reason but the fact that it's overlooking her garden isn't....having said that I DO agree with Rabbit.....gardens are for the DC too....and you're a bit mean not to get him a little trampoline. My friend has a perfect lawn and the DC are always told off for playing on it....mean.

Try ChippinginNeedsCoffee's suggestion. But be prepared to have to put up and trellis and plant climbers over it.

Rofl at MrsTrellis (fab name for a gardening type thread too)

why don't you do a trellis and grow some Mile a Minute up it?

MrsTrellis where I live a tramp is a prostitute

Agree, bad luck OP but you won't come across well on points 1 or 2.

Point 1: it's their garden and they have chosen to put it there probably for the same reason you chose to use that part of the garden yourselves. I doubt whether the DC will be on it day and night but you may want to think about putting a better screen/ hedge/ fence between your garden and theirs.
Point 2: makes you sound mean.

Ours is at the bottom of the front garden right next to the neighbour's garden, it was in my back yard.

But then after chatting to dh when he mentioned a large shed and she got in a snit about it shading her precious garden I got in a snit about her rudeness and her incredible stupidity and so it happened that we moved the trampoline there instead.

She is in front of us AND to the south so it is IMPOSSIBLE for anything we put in our garden to shade hers at any point in the day. I hope she rues the day!

Soooooooo what I am saying is YABU! really!

Where are all these men gawping at breastfeeding mothers? Four children breastfed and not one ogle did I get. I thought DH was ogling one day but he was just looking at DC curls.