to think dh is lazy.

[walker78]

Ok so I only work part time (8hrs per week) and have school age dc. Dh works full time and has an hour's commute.
I do all the housework, shopping, laundry, child care etc. (even bins)
I am also pregnant and starting to feel big/hot etc. ( end 2ND trimester)
Today I did a supermarket shop. Didn't want to go today but i have been putting if off as money tight this month. As soon as I got though the door with the 1st bags one of the dc was asking me something. DH response was mummy's busy. He did not offer to help bring bags in.
Other examples not knowing where the bin is.
Finding something that does not belong to him in a drawer. Taking it out and leaving in on the side and not putting in correct place.
I am currently attempting to reduce my workload so i have started leaving dh's ironed clothes hanging up but not put away. Surprise surprise they are exactly where I put them.
I have also started leaving abandoned wrappers where there are.
AIBU.

[Sparks1]

As a male this sort of thread absolutely baffles me.

It doesn't matter what hours i work i'd help out with this sort of thing. It's just common decency and respect for your partner. And it shouldn't require prompting, it's self evident.

Any person who accepts less is a mug IMO. But then maybe i'm just weird!

[ceeveebee]

Hansie good idea, might just do that!

[puffberto]

Agree with Sparks. It's not about the hours you spend at work - a kind, thoughtful person would not leave you feeling like this.

[WorraLiberty]

If he needs it spelling out to him then spell it out

Don't be a Martyr...there are no medals for that.

[Iwantcandy]

Why Can't you just say "bring the shopping in from the car please." or "I've ironed your shirts can you put them away now please"