I think I might have been really rude to her by mistake.
We moved into our rental about 8 mos ago and previous tenant had been close friends with neighbour. Neighbour duly came and introduced herself and was v friendly. She also collected accumulated post for last tenant as they see each other regularly and said, 'Oh I'll pass on post for her, I see her most weeks'.
I feel like a meanie, but whilst I was civil back, I didn't warm to her that much. She later invited me round for coffee but I couldn't make the day, and then to a jewelry party to buy some stuff her friend had made - but I felt a bit uncomfy so declined. She's kind of given up on me since then - fair dos. Don't feel we have much in common.
But last tenant seems totally unable to redirect her post and we still get masses of stuff for her - her driving licence, Christmas cards, bank statements. A few times recently I have gone over to NDN's and just put last tenant's post through her door with a friendly note 'Sorry to bother you, when you see X would you mind etc'.
DP says this is really rude and I should wait till she's in, chat and socialise and then give her post. He says sticking it through her door is unfriendly and treating her like my skivvy.
Who is right? Am I really rude? Is NDN cool with me because I have been mean to her?