to understand why newbies feel unwelcome when there's a certain group of people on here that think mumsnet is all about them?

[truthful]

I really do understand why there is a 'flouncers corner' on this site and I understand why people feel the need to go to it!
Six months ago I joined this site and on my first ever thread there was about 10 people who all clearly knew eachother and started their own conversation and completely ignored me! I felt really unwelcome but just thought it was a one off. Ever since then I've begun to realise that its like school on here and theres the 'popular' group who seem to think that everyone should know who they are and so they just hijack everyone elses thread and talk amongst themselves ignoring other people in the process! I was even in a thread yesterday and there was a discussion and one of the popular ones said something along the lines of ' oh its jack, havent seen you for a while, hows your dad?'
To me that was rude and if you know eachother that well then shouldn't you be emailing or private messaging instead of being so rude? I can honestly say I have said something regarding to what the OP was asking and been completely ignored by what send like the usual lot talking about scones or something
Another thing which I hate is all the private jokes flying around which is between the usual lot and no one else. Fanjo??? Grow up!
The only time people seem to get noticed is when they have changed their name to something like one of the popular peoples names! Remember the whole 'whos impersonating sue's thing yesterday??? seems like thats all people cared about as yiu are sooo popular so

Bernadette Jaysus

Oh MaryZ, I promise that wasn't supposed to be an insult - I think it's a beautiful name

If it makes you feel any better I was named after a fucking Osmond

My dd wont wear m&s knickers either, don't ask me why, I think because I do!
They are so comfy though.

I remember a time when I bought knickers that were pretty and scratchy....vaguely :(

My rl name isn't fanjo either but I almost pissed myself laughing yesterday when someone phoned me at work actually called mr fanjo

I had to pretend to have a coughing fit.

Is your name Little Jimmie, LtEve?

LtEve-marie?

ahhh scratchy knicks

see also: high heeled shoes, teeny tiny pretty handbags.

All filed under : No fecking way anymore

It was mr fanjo, I made him spell it.

I actually am an Oracle.

troof.

Pinot I remember when I first chatted to you - I assumed that you had been here for YEARS. You had only been on MN for a couple of months then.

I think it is best to jump right in. Not like me. For the first 6 months I just posted inanities like 'yes OP that is a very interesting point' whilst all around me talked about bats and coddisms. PLUS I had a hun name. As soon as I changed my name and started swearing I made friends.

My confirmation name is mary I am very holy. Wish I had thought of Bernadette Jaysus though.

Gerrof Which is weird innit as in RL I am as shy and introvert as can be. But on MN I just leapt in and had fun.

It's a funny old game, innit.

And I don't know about anyone else, but I can definitely tell with posters straight away if they are warm and caring and funny. I can spot n/c-ers and have often been chatting and lolling with a "newbie" when they PM to say "It's meeeeeeeee". That's happened loads of times. I think the written word gives off alot more than people realise - I sense alot from people posts. And some new posters just slip right in.

I'm waffling now :o

As soon as I changed my name and started swearing I made friends

That works in RL too you know

In fact a good motto to live by is Stop being precious, start being sweary.

And some new posters just slip right in.

I say! Ding dong.

smut!

Better to slip right in than to fumble and prod about and end up somewhere uncomfortable

You know dh then, HoneyDragon!

I now feel obliged to share with you that,despite evidence to the contrary, I do not drift through moated granges wailing "Wooooooo" at every opportunity.

LeQ, did your mum keep the receipt? I did classics in my comprehensive school...

I, on the other hand, really am a giant whirling fairground ride lady.

btw, I read the first and last pages. Was there an outcome to the OP?

fwiw I've been here For Ever and get shunned every time I step on a thread. You just watch.

MaryZ and Fanjo are both correct