mum took dd 9 to see new vampire movie (johnny depp)

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dd is staying at m&d's tonight, spent the day there. just called and mum said they took her to see it as (quote) dd told her all her friends had seen it (!) and that we were ok with it. i know she wanted to see it but i wouldn't have taken her to see it as the poster alone i thought made the film not look suitable, she is 9 and the movie is a 12a which apparently means a 12 year old can see it without a guardian but a 9 year old can with a guardian (so i have been told). not happy. mum said there is one scene only with a passionate kiss, this fills me with horror tbh, perhaps i am over reacting but i am very protective with her with regards to anything even remotely sexual. i remember when i was about 10 or 11 m&d made the mistake of taking me to the kings road with older sister for her birthday to see the rocky horror picture show, i was mortified, i knew i was too young, i can remember the night out very clearly, no idea what my parents were thinking of......they won't make that mistake again, she knows i am somewhat upset. have any of you seen it?

Really? I was just about to post how jealous I was. No babysitters for us, and look it's Jonnnnnnnnnnny

I don't think your DD will have any lasting damage from seeing a 12 certificate film with her GM. Honestly. especially as it had the lovely Jonny in it

I haven't seen it but I wouldn't take a 9 year old to a 12 film. Just by it's certification I know it wouldn't be suitable.

It was 12A laurie so you can take under 12s with an adult now.

Why did you opt for vintage books rather than modern ones that she might have held more interest in?

I took my DDs (13 & 15) last week. There was one scene where the female doctor disappears downwards off screen (to give JD a blow jb) - the camera focuses on his face for a couple of seconds. Another scene has JD and a woman climbing the walls and rolling around the floor, kissing etc, as a prelude to (unseen) sex. What i didn't like about that scene was it started with her lying back on the sofa, legs akimbo, and JD staring at her crotch, then 'climbing' up through her legs, to kiss her lips. There is one unnecessary reference to the teenage girl masturbating.

For most of the above, you would have to be sexually aware to actually know what was going on out of shot etc. I didn't really see the need for any sexual content in the film at all getting prudish in my old age

Vintage description of a penis?!?! .

And I didn't say she'd be passionately kissing at 10. I said she might be due to ignorance if you keep avoiding kissing in movies and elsewhere.

Took my 11 year old to see it this afternoon and there is scenes I would say were unsuitable but I am a prude. In one scene 2 main characters are having sex although it is implied rather than full on. The fly round the room tearing at each other clothes etc.

In another the witch removes her pants and places them over the vampires mouth.

In yet another there are drugs being taken although it isn't obvious that it is drugs.

I really wasn't impressed but as I stated I am really uptight about these things.

I would Freak!

worra - i am a dealer/trader, i sell vintage ladybird books and happened to have one knocking around and was reading it, she came along and showed an interest so i gave it to her. oi - it is the way it talks about it, i can hear the voice describing it like those old 60's black and white educational short films with the well spoken english mans voice 'the man puts his penis into the womens vagina....etc etc' :D

squeakytoy From my experience if a child says "Mum said it's fine" I'd always check. Obviously I don't know the family dynamic so it was just based on the OP's reaction to the situation and my personal experience. Wasn't implying it wasn't suitable for children or that there's something awful in taking a child to see a 12a.

I know you CAN, I wouldn't though

This is a vintae penis

YABU and very controlling (re the ladybird sex book)

I hate to tell you this but at 9 you need to have a proper sit down chat about periods.

Forget the sex bit at the moment if you dont feel it appropriate but given that alot of girls start their periods at 10 (and some earlier) she really does need to know. And not just about why they happen but how to deal with them, what she should do when her first one comes etc.

Please dont put your own neurosis onto your dd, just because you had one bad experience doesnt mean that everything even remotely rude is evil and will taint her for life!

trixi - the flying around the room tearing at each other would be the scene my mother told me about. i'm ok about it now, it's done, nothing i can do about it now, still can't help the way i feel, she is in my heart still my baby and it is hard to let go although i know i have to and will but she is 9 and i still don't want her to see sexual stuff. i have a friend who lets her sone watch the imbetweeners with her, i think that is completely wrong but horses for courses, she can do what she wants, ain't up to me. i am in direct contrast to her very open about drugs (i don't do them but used to) and have an open mind on the subject whilst she is really closed off - my point is different people have different views on different things

I was wondering about periods myself bogey

Over the years, I've known a few 9yr old girls to have them.

I meant to add and forgot, a vintage ladybird book will not equip her with what she needs to know about the social and personal aspects of menstruation.

FYI, my mothers idea of sex/menstrual education was also to give me a book and THAT was worse than useless because it gave me some info but didnt answer any of the miriad of questions I had.

FFS talk to her!

bogey - you have got me wrong, she knows all about periods etc, the only thing i haven't talked to her about is sex, pure and simple. lamb - wtf..what's controlling about the ladybird book? i didn't buy it for her benefit, i had it and thought i would let her look at it as she had initially shown an interest and i thought yeah, she can read for herself about how babies are made

If you want a good, detailed idea of what is in a movie then go to www.imdb.com as it describes exactly what goes on in the movie and what might offend/frighten. The film does end up sounding worse than it is as a whole, but that's because the comments are focused on the negative bits. For example, we checked it before taking DD (5) to Mirror Mirror and it was spot on as she found the puppets scary but enjoyed the rest of the film.

12A ratings were invented to allow under 12s to see something that was particularly popular at the time where the other films in the series had been PG. Some are worse than others. FWIW, I'd think twice about taking a 9 year old to a 12A so I don't think you're being unreasonable, but some are worse than others.

I would take a 9 year old to a 12a, but I wouldnt take a younger child. The OP has admitted that she is over protective so I would say that she needs to trust her parents more objective view.

I findit funny that u object to a 9 yo seeing people kiss or have sex but its ok to see humans drink other humans blood lol

its very strange as sex should be loving and is natrual just like the human body but children are not told that. Yet vampires are ok!

air good point...!

Why is blood and gore more acceptable than nudaty and sex?

it isn't, i don't accept them either but my mum didn't mention them, she tells me she has taken her to see this film and immediately launched into how there was a scene of passionate kissing (as opposed to basic kissing) and explained in what way passionate, i didn't get a chance to dwell on whether or not there was any blood gore, as i had said previously i wasn't going to take her to see the film, i've never taken her to see gory/horror films despite knowing that some of her friends same age have seen horror films with an 18 cert