Is it possible to follow MN netiquette and not drag up what a poster's said on another thread?

[AgentZigzag]

Out of general curiosity rather than about a specific poster/thread, but when you've read and can't help remembering, for example, a poster's extreme view on one thread, is it possible to keep that separate if you run into them on another thread as MN 'netiquette' suggests you should?

It's easy to remember a posters name when they've been kind or given good advice, so that shows some posters do remember each other and it's not all 'words on a screen' ([wee humphy face] ).

Maybe the netiquette's more to do with 'Think it all you like, just don't post it', but the nature of MN being an anonymous site with the majority a lot of gobby shites outspoken posters, makes it impossible to keep to the 'rule'?

AIBU?

And will the flaming you give me follow me from thread to thread for ever more? (please let it be so, it'd make me feel important)

'I'd hide the tea v coffee type threads as I'd end up arguing with myself '

Only way to get a decent argument sometimes

I always win arguments with myself. Perfect comeback zingers just like that (smug)

I dont recall names
but a fair few seem to have mn grudges and will recall past threads and get gripey
then there is the you is stalking me types,who think any rebuke is in fact indicative of stalking. and grudge

Hope you don't mind me quoting your 'words on a screen' pearl scottishmummy?

I did kind of reference it.

it's supposed to be blether
not earnest she said,I said
and it is words on a screen.if it permeates or irks then time to log off have wee rest

There are some posters who get a great deal of support from MN though SM, sometimes it can be the only way a poster can reach out to other people in the same situation as them.

Although it can make you perhaps more vulnerable, sometimes the emotion behind the words is important.

But if it was words to your face? The 'correct response'is the same, turn your back walk away. But you'd accept that you may have an emotional response to something someone had said. Its the same here, its the message not the medium that matters

I'll always hate the twat who gave me a very undeserved flaming after a very innocent newbie post about a pg problem. Makes my teeth itch when I see her on a thread, and she probably won't know who I am as I have name changed since.

agree we all engage mn in different ways
but I do think it's good to remind self it is online,it is words on a screen and regulate to protect yourself

I've seen polarities on mn
the scams,the headbangers,some high expressed emotion
the kind spontaneity, support and warmth

but no I don't hold mn gripes or grudges.can't recall who said what
and life to short

Agent I probably do make subconscious note of a username if I read a twatty offensve post and remember it the next time. BUT I will refrain from letting it cloud my overall opinion on a different thread. I just type my reply out by thwacking the letters on the keyboard I like to think of it as the online equivalent of "biting one's tongue"

'BUT I will refrain from letting it cloud my overall opinion on a different thread.'

That's very decent of you Shakey, I appreciate it

Some posters you see getting upset on a thread, you can't help but worry for them getting a bit too drawn into the MN machine SM.

Although that's probably me just getting too involved as well

It's easily done and understandable, but it's hard to measure what might leave you open. Do you reign it in when you start thinking about a thread when you're not on MN? Or if it gets you really riled, enough not like another poster?

If MN was just about entertainment it'd be easy to draw a line.

you have to regulate, protect self be online savvy
the biggest mistake,IMO is the belief ones amongst pals and that it's safes space
its huge online,and linked to fb,twitter, and media trawl for stories

thankyou Scottishmummy, I've used those words, as an mn newbie, to stop myself getting too emotional. It's a useful tip for rl too but more "that's that persons opinion, I don't have to own it" iyswim.

Empusa, are you pagan? Have you heard of "the secrets of the north"?