Is it possible to follow MN netiquette and not drag up what a poster's said on another thread?

[AgentZigzag]

Out of general curiosity rather than about a specific poster/thread, but when you've read and can't help remembering, for example, a poster's extreme view on one thread, is it possible to keep that separate if you run into them on another thread as MN 'netiquette' suggests you should?

It's easy to remember a posters name when they've been kind or given good advice, so that shows some posters do remember each other and it's not all 'words on a screen' ([wee humphy face] ).

Maybe the netiquette's more to do with 'Think it all you like, just don't post it', but the nature of MN being an anonymous site with the majority a lot of gobby shites outspoken posters, makes it impossible to keep to the 'rule'?

AIBU?

And will the flaming you give me follow me from thread to thread for ever more? (please let it be so, it'd make me feel important)

Yeah well, they should have ducked.

You're right, some people just never learn

My aim is getting better though.

My aim is getting better though.

Oops double post

Is it bad to lurk on a lighthearted thread waiting for the humourless fucker to turn up?

Sometimes it's a bit like a car crash in slow motion -

OP
Happy post
Friendly rib of OP
Bit of banter
Humourless fuckers boot
Bunfight
Thread deleted

You can just see it coming and glad you're not involved

But then I think I might have written a frothing post on a lighthearted thread if I felt that strongly about it, not for trolling reasons or because I was in an arse that day sometimes you just can't help yourself.

Good précis, AZZ!
And true - I think I have thrown cold water at a thread at least once when it probably wasn't at all warranted. But not recently.

It would all depend on if I felt people were already getting arsey. I don't think I'd jump into something light-hearted. Plus people should, at least, read a few pages of a thread before they jump in.

"I tend to reply to posters regarding their posts rather than their posting style...I find that's easier to do on MN than other forums for some reason."

The lack of avatars/tickers/signatures really helps with this!

I can usually ignore/hide a thread where I think I might not be able to contain my rage frustration, but posting about something that cuts to the quick with me can overcome the bollocks I'd give about the flaming I'd get.

'It would all depend on if I felt people were already getting arsey. I don't think I'd jump into something light-hearted.'

Are you you saying you don't think you could say something if you were the only poster saying it on the thread manic? Even if there was something in the OP that nobody else had picked up on but which you thought was the OP behaving like a twat?

Nope, I'm saying if it's a light hearted thread then it should be left to potter on as one without someone with a sense of humour bypass coming along and being Victor Meldrew.

Even if you were reading posters laughing about something you felt strongly about?

Like the pigeon thread, I didn't think there was anything even approaching laughing at animal cruelty, but I can imagine if someone was actively involved in animal rights organisations they could twist the way people were laughing at Nigels predicament into something inhumane and feel they had to post.

Ah, I had my first victor meldrew moment and have learnt my lesson. Life's too short to get in a bunfight and now I just hide threads I think I won't agree on. I'll also hide threads where I don't understand something and google it instead, and threads which are anti x, y or z, and ones which have funny people on them, cos I'm a bit weird.
There's only babynames and baking left :o joke

Agent, I didn't see the pigeon thread but having worked with animals which have been rescued after being abused I probably would have a sense of humour failure. I wouldn't bother to say anything on MN, I'd just go out in RL and help rescued animals/people.

As for the op's question, I'd probably forget I'd disagreed with someone unless they were really offensive then I'd avoid.

MN is what is because of strong sense of community; MN has a strong sense of community precisely because people remember other posters' concurrent life story info. So I think it's fine when recent info is touched upon.
Pinning someone down to stuff they said years ago is a bit daft, though. I have said more than a few idiotic things in the past too.

There are a handful of posters I now realise I should just avoid reading what they say in all threads. I know they talk sense sometimes, they just rub me up the wrong way rest of the time.

Thankfully I didn't post much when I first joined, because over time my views have changed dramatically. MN has made me more understanding of the shit that others go through, something that I wouldn't necessarily have understood, or even believed years ago. If someone bought up something I'd said back then, and it was an opposing view now I would quite happily hold my hands up and say "Well yes, but I was a twat back then"

I dont think I've ever bought up someone else's posts, but I have commented if someone's 'style' has changed. Mainly in confusion. "Why are you acting like this now, when normally you act like that?" I suppose I have a picture in my mind of some posters, and get confused when their personality changes.

I have a 'do not engage' list, but u don't usually care enough to mention previous threads, however I have done with one particularly 'head bangy' poster.

I think she is back now as well after a ban and a name change, usual style that makes me want to just reach through the screen and shake her.

Thanks for the clarification Zig! I answered your post thinking of threads where the OP asks for help with a specific issue, then someone replies drawing on information from one of the OP's other threads. So not really what you asked about at all .

Is it bad to lurk on a lighthearted thread waiting for the humourless fucker to turn up?

This is practically my favourite hobby. Sometimes when I know I am onto a sure thing I start counting down from 100....

Seriously, unless someone is very offensive, how do people even remember what other posters have said - unless you use spreadsheets of course! I have "fallen out" with posters on threads or being shocked at harsh comments to other posters. Can I bloody remember their NN's? No I can't! Even when I think to myself - I won't forget your NN in a hurry. A day later, I'm thinking, who said that again?

I remember very few posters. However, I remember some horrid posts and stay away from threads where i have seen a poster lose it before - I can't bear it when people post then get angry if someone disagrees.

I am shocked if anyone remembers me tho, and have had a few 'aren't you the poster who...?' - nothing bad or contradictory, just people remembering my back story.

Once i was on a lighthearted thread and said my DP and i shared a toothbrush (yes, i know now that everyone on MN thinks it's gross!) anyway, on another thread we were talking about cleaning our loo's and a poster followed me saying don't listen to me as i was disgusting because i shared a toothbrush etc.

What was lovely tho was i didn't have to say anything, other lovely mnetters jumped in to my defence and i felt all warm and fuzzy inside :)

I really dont Why people hide threads - why get so upset you have to hide something?

I remember some posters but generally take most on their recent posts. There was one poster who thinks it is perfectly acceptable that she and her dp had a shag whilst her two year old was playing in the same room and I admit I remember that whenever I see her name and do think that was really disgusting.

I often think that I'll remember a particular fact about a poster, but I usually can't remember who it was 5 minutes later.

I pulled a poster up once about something, and she admitted that she was wrong to say what she did. I still see her around,but it doesn't affect how / whether I interact with her.

Saying that, it is difficult when you see the same poster giving the same advice to lots of OPs, even when the advice doesn't seem to fit the variety of situations particularly well. It makes me wonder whether they have a document of stock responses that they copy and paste from.

See I'd hide that kind of thread because I just cba to say that thats child abuse and get in a bunfight for it. I'd rather spend my time making a difference in rl and my time posting on mn supporting people not banging my head off a brick wall.