Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

to think it most unreasonable that I am still expected to get up at the crack of dawn and the bloody teenagers don't appear for hours?

79 replies

DameHermione · 18/05/2012 07:46

What age is reasonable to let themselves get up and off to school?

What is most unfair is getting up so bloody early and bloody dd2 not getting up at all. Infuristes me.

Also would it be turribly U to expect DD1 to feed the menagerie seeing as she has to be up early and I don't?

OP posts:
Olympia2012 · 18/05/2012 07:48

How early? Does dd2 decide to opt out of education then?

Original poster
DameHermione · 18/05/2012 07:50

8 get up at 7.

Yes DD opts out. (Stupid french teacher has upset her this week)

OP posts:
Original poster
DameHermione · 18/05/2012 07:51

I get up at 7.

DDs emerge at half past.

OP posts:
Jinsei · 18/05/2012 07:51
Confused
msrisotto · 18/05/2012 07:52

Opts out? Of French or school completely?

ScarletLadyOfTheNight01 · 18/05/2012 07:54

I wouldn't consider 7 the crack of dawn personally, it's not THAT early...I thought you were meaning 6 or earlier. But then, I've always been an early riser.

Olympia2012 · 18/05/2012 07:54

How old is she? And why does she get a choice?

cleo78 · 18/05/2012 07:54

Erm....really hoping that you're not telling us everything here,as it currently sounds as though you're not happy at having to get your kids up and about for school, and that at least one of them doesn't go anyway...and that it's the stupid french teachers fault too????

cleo78 · 18/05/2012 07:56

actually...if they are opting out of school, it seems all the more important to get up and make sure they get there doesn't it?

Megatron · 18/05/2012 07:57

I don't understand this. Your 8 year DD has decided not to go to school because her French teacher upset her? (apologies if I have that wrong)

You get up at 7 (hardly the crack of dawn). The rest get up at half past 7?

shesparkles · 18/05/2012 07:58

I finished work at 2am this morning and got u p at 7. My kids are 10 and 15. I get up because as a parent it's my legal responsibility to get them to school.
Ok they're pretty good at getting up anyway but they're my responsibility.

Original poster
DameHermione · 18/05/2012 07:59

I hate mornings. And its just not fair that i have to get up when i don't need to. (if i'm working i can see how i have to).
DD school saga is long and tedious. She mostly goes but if someone stupid does exactly what it says not to on her IEP it throws her into a bit of a tizz. Therefore this week it is the fault of the stupid french teacher. I plan on slapping him hard with the aforesaid IEP.

OP posts:
LaurieFairyCake · 18/05/2012 08:02

If your children were sensible and not avoiding school then letting them get themselves up from 13 onwards is a nice bit of responsibility for them to learn.

We tried it at Christmas but she wasn't ready but today, the day after her birthday, she got herself up.

Along with extra priviledges like going into big town a few miles away comes extra responsibilities - this is one of them.

mumblechum1 · 18/05/2012 08:02

tbh I wouldn't expect a 10 yr old to get themselves off to school by themselves, but certainly a 15 yr old would be expected to imo.

I drive ds to school on my way to work, but the odd days when I'm not going in, he gets himself off and on the bus & has done since he started secondary.

Megatron · 18/05/2012 08:02

So you just let her not go to school? Really? Hardly helping the situation.

With regards the rest. Get up and get your kids to school.

YourFanjoIsNotAHandbag · 18/05/2012 08:03

My older 2 DCs are 13&14

They get up at 6:30
They set their own alarms, get up, have breakfast, have a shower, get dressed and myself and ds2 get up at 7:15

Why is your dc opting out of school?

Olympia2012 · 18/05/2012 08:03

If I were you I would be getting up to support my daughter! Take her in and see the French teacher at the same time?

You say you don't need to get up..... You do! You have responsibilities!

How old are your dc?

Original poster
DameHermione · 18/05/2012 08:05

And the bloody cats start asking for breakfast from about 6.

Is it U to occasionally want to stay asleep and not get woken up before i am ready?

OP posts:
YourFanjoIsNotAHandbag · 18/05/2012 08:06

Sorry, I just read your answer, I'm still confused though by the fact she "mostly" goes to school?

Is that why you feel you have to get up with the older ones, do they opt out as well.

And why are you getting up at 7, and the DCs get up at 7:30?
If its too early, get up the same time as DCs?

Original poster
DameHermione · 18/05/2012 08:07

Megatron have a go. Be my guest. I've been trying for 14 years. Its someone elses turn.

OP posts:
HeathRobinson · 18/05/2012 08:07

Go to bed earlier. Wink

noblegiraffe · 18/05/2012 08:07

Getting up when you don't want to is part of being an adult with responsibilities.

Lifeissweet · 18/05/2012 08:08

No it's certainly not unreasonable to want that, but that's what weekends are for.

Are you ok, OP? Are you feeling a bit down in general. It sounds a bit like it's maybe all a bit much for you at the moment?

Original poster
DameHermione · 18/05/2012 08:11

The saga...

DD1.16 NT. Not had a day off ever. Perfectly capable of getting on with it.

DD2. 14. AS. mostly goes if i force her. Been trying her entire life. Its very wearing. Just takes one incident to put her off going fot weeks (stupid french teacher who obviously hasn't read her IEP).

Cats who start asking for breakfast from 6.

I'm tired. And want a lie in.

OP posts:
QuintessentialShadows · 18/05/2012 08:11

If you want to make sure you are rested when your alarm bell goes, then I suggest going to bed earlier. It works a treat.