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Original poster

to think it most unreasonable that I am still expected to get up at the crack of dawn and the bloody teenagers don't appear for hours?

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DameHermione · 18/05/2012 07:46

What age is reasonable to let themselves get up and off to school?

What is most unfair is getting up so bloody early and bloody dd2 not getting up at all. Infuristes me.

Also would it be turribly U to expect DD1 to feed the menagerie seeing as she has to be up early and I don't?

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Shutupanddrive · 18/05/2012 08:12

Maybe they take after you by not wanting to get out of bed?

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DameHermione · 18/05/2012 08:12

And i don't want responsibilities.

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YourFanjoIsNotAHandbag · 18/05/2012 08:13

I've been known to go to bed at 9:30 Blush

Bloody good nights sleep though.

QuintessentialShadows · 18/05/2012 08:13

I am sorry, but most people dont get lie ins mid week. Do you work? If not, you could perhaps get to bed and sleep as long as you want when the kids have gone to school?

Can I ask a stupid question?
Is is possible to distinguish between pure bloody minded naughtiness and AS?
Must she always get her way because she has AS?

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DameHermione · 18/05/2012 08:14

If i went any earlier i'd be going before them.
And silly work hours mean i work most weekends.

And my knackered back means i wake up every time i turn over.

It makes me tired.

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Olympia2012 · 18/05/2012 08:14

Oh well, you don't want responsibilities??Hmm

Is this for real? Neither did I! As a lone parent I have no bloody choice though. What support so you have?

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DameHermione · 18/05/2012 08:15

Yes. I can tell the difference between normal teenage stroppiness and AS.

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QuintessentialShadows · 18/05/2012 08:16

Oh, I am so with you there. I SO dont want responsibilities. Right now I want a holiday from my life. Where there is no school, and nobody wakes up before 8.30. That would be fantastic.

My friend rang the other day, we have been trying to catch up for a coffee for about a month. We managed to agree to "some point next week, lets call eachother and make arrangements monday" She said: "I just wish life would get back to Normal" I replied "Honey, this is normal, havent you realized" She was dumbfounded when she realized I was right....

It is adulthood. Sad

mumblechum1 · 18/05/2012 08:16

Well, why don't you go to bed before them? This week dh is away and I've been going to bed at 9.30 when ds(17) is still out with this mates! He's perfectly capable of letting himself in and turning off the lights

OhNoMyFanjo · 18/05/2012 08:16

Get rid of the cats.

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DameHermione · 18/05/2012 08:16

Olympia, do you never want to resign your responsibilities? If not it must be nice to be so bloody perfect. Do share your secret with me.

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DameHermione · 18/05/2012 08:18

Shock fanjo. Never!

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DameHermione · 18/05/2012 08:19

Im tired with real life. A month or so off would be nice.

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3teenhell · 18/05/2012 08:21

Dame i think we all feel like you at times. We work hard and have lots our plate, its normal to feel overwhelmed by it at times.

No useful advice but just wanted you to know we all have these moments

MoodyNagoo · 18/05/2012 08:21

I don't think that there is much wrong with wanting some time off from responsibility.

Responsibility does become rather wearing.

I work weekends too, and stupid hours. I started to prioritise sleep over everything else, and became a champion napper. This has made me happy less of a mardy bitch

Also my cats are on an Iams regime, my house no longer stinks of whiskas, and aside from the odd false alarm when I open a bean tin, they have largely STFU asking for food, due to the unceasing disappointment of dry food.

noblegiraffe · 18/05/2012 08:25

Working weekends must suck. Any chance you could start planning a small holiday? Half term is coming up, a change of scene could do you good?

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DameHermione · 18/05/2012 08:26

Holiday? HahahahahahahaharSob.

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DameHermione · 18/05/2012 08:27

Deep beath.

More caffine.

Pull self together.

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OhNoMyFanjo · 18/05/2012 08:27

I hear the month off, is there anyone who can give you a break?

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DameHermione · 18/05/2012 08:30

I get a week off in september.

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cwtch4967 · 18/05/2012 08:33

OP I think you have choosen the wrong place to post, you're not going to get much support and understanding in AIBU. Until you mentioned your 14 year old has AS and you have been up against the system for years I too was ready to flame you for wanting to go to bed!!!

Having a child with special needs is hard especially when you have health issues yourself and little support.

Come over to Special Needs when you need a moan - you will find people a lot more understanding!

OhNoMyFanjo · 18/05/2012 08:33

Lucky you have you got it all planned?

ScarletLadyOfTheNight01 · 18/05/2012 08:34

I can understand wanting to just hide for a few days most definitely. My DD is only 18 months so feel free to tell me to piss off, but she's never slept through and it leaves me exhausted most of the time.

A lie-in would be LOVELY sometimes most definitely...I was up at 5.30 this morning.

Sometimes I would like to take all those people who say all children sleep through by 6 months and slap them with a wet fish.

Slightly different scenario obviously...

OhNoMyFanjo · 18/05/2012 08:34

cwtch4967 totally agree.

Op report your thread and ask them to move it.

DonkeyTeapot · 18/05/2012 08:34

Just to offer an alternate point of view, my mother used to refuse to get up until my three siblings and I had gone to school. I resented it a great deal, and felt it showed a general disinterest that I found utterly soul-destroying.