child benefit

[gooddad]

My ex wife and i share are children, as she work's nights we have them four nights each, we have two by the way.
She gets all the child benefit, am i being unfair to want to split it two ways?
My GF isn't working at the moment and my ex say's she will give me some when GF starts.

If you pay half towards everything (including clothes, school uniform etc) then I think you should be entitled to one of the benefits.

If you pay half you should get half of any money for the children. I would tell her either she pays for everything 'extra' or she splits the money with you. She seems to be the one benefiting from the arrangement as it is now financially.

My friend is in a similar situation to the OP. He has his son 3 days some weeks, 4 others, but his ex claims all the TCs, CB etc for the child. He pays the petrol to go and get the son, and the Mum doesn't send anything for him for the few days away! It's a crap situation for my friend, as all he can claim is job seekers for himself, and that has to pay for everything the baby needs too! CSA have told him what the mother is doing is 'normal' and allowed :(

No advice, but as I said to my friend, if you are paying half, and doing half the care, then you should be entitled to half the money IMO.

op,you should be claiming all child related benefits and tax credit as you have them the majority of the time.and you pay half towards all the "extras"

frankly your being soft

yanbu

sorry left out though she should recieve monies for her 3 nights also,but claim should be in your name

if you have 50/50 share of care you should have 50/50 share of benefits and certainly shouldnt be paying maintenance some blokes do get it rough i think people forget that

It sounds like you are having them half the time so I guess you are feeding them half the time so that would be fair. What about Child Tax Credit though. Is that split also?

He's hardly being 'soft'! She wants all the money, and the system in this country is such that she can realistically say what she likes and he will get nothing. If she was to go to the CSS shed get maintenance from him too. Fairness doesn't come into it.

If she wont agree gooddad, then put your arguments to the child benefit agency and let them decide.

*My friend is in a similar situation to the OP. He has his son 3 days some weeks, 4 others, but his ex claims all the TCs, CB etc for the child. He pays the petrol to go and get the son, and the Mum doesn't send anything for him for the few days away! It's a crap situation for my friend, as all he can claim is job seekers for himself, and that has to pay for everything the baby needs too! CSA have told him what the mother is doing is 'normal' and allowed

No advice, but as I said to my friend, if you are paying half, and doing half the care, then you should be entitled to half the money IMO*

Then i'd suggest your friend gets back in contact with the idiots and lets them know there's nothing "normal" about it and that its not allowed and is completely unacceptable.

allnewtaketwo,my comment being soft was aimed at shes getting all the money and hes doing most of the caring and paying more financially,so hes being soft for letting her claim the money and he recieving nothing

i thought that was pretty clear in my post,obviously not

Gooddad I have a friend in a very similar position, he and his ex have their son 4 days/nights each, they earn a similar amount and she has a bf who also works (they live together) and yet she gets all the money!

I have thought in the past that it was extremely unfair on him that he is usually the one that buys 'extra' things for their son (he recently bought him a bike so he could get to school easier), he pays 50% of everything else and yet she gets all the benefits? It doesn't seem fair :(

The also recently got a bill through from their son's school as there is some outstanding payments for school dinners from last term - he was commenting that he will have to pay it because she won't (or something like that!)

I don't get tax credit's or any sort of other benefits, at time's it does seem like she spend's to much on them and i can't compete and i know it's not a competition