To leave Dd alone in hotel room?

[Shelby2010]

More of a WWYD really. We are going to be staying with Dd (18mths) in a hotel next month on holiday & then overnight for a wedding in July. How safe do MNetters feel it is to leave their sleeping DC in the room with either the listening service or a normal baby monitor while eating in the hotel restaurant or attending an evening reception?

Am I being very PFB to worry about how many members of staff could access the room (especially with programable card keys)? The fact that hotels do offer a listening service suggests that many parents are ok with this. I'm torn between thinking I'm paranoid and thinking that they always tell you not to leave valuables in you room except in the safe..... Help!

When dc1 was 20 months we went to a wedding. He was with us for the reception and then DH went to the evening do alone. Never even crossed our minds to leave him alone. You just don't.

Not because she might be abducted - she won't be, but as others have said , the risk that she will climb out, fall down, hurt her head, vomit and choke etc, or be frightened by the burglar, becaue of course if you think no-one will enter the room you will be leaving your your purse, diamond ring, passport, lying about in full view in your hotel room as well? If not - why not?

Christ, LeQ. How terrifying :(

I don't think I'd ever dare be out of sight of my children if that had happened to me.

How in the hell did you move on from it?

I am not suprised this is such a long thread given the subject matter - I AM suprised that you would even consider leaving your child alone in a hotel room though.

MrsGuyofGisbourne - I don't really understand your comment re that the child won't be abducted? Of course that could happen - it has been known to happen from hotel rooms, parks in small villages etc - very unlikely of course. Yes the risk of other things is much higher of course but why would you take the chance?

Thankgod you are all ok LeQueen, and you didnt go further that night.
The people on here leaving their dcs alone in hotel room should read this and think twice-a risk is what it is, dont chance your dcs lifes on a night out its not worth it.
Its bad enough when things go wrong in a cottage or house let alone people being floors and corridoors away from their dcs

Exactly that was the point i was trying to make LeQueen, there is nothing wrong in what you did that night at all as being in a cottage is much like being at home but leaving kids in a hotel room is totally different and something people shouldn't do at all

WOw,m glad you are all OK. Also glad you could share your experience on here.

Agree with further above - take baby with you to wedding and have her in buggy. if she sleeps great - if not she can dance, eat etc and enjoy the wedding.

No no no no no to leaving her alone.

Its a small risk perhaps? But its a risk and no kiddie should have to be put at risk.

I haven't read the whole thread but I just don't get the choking thing. Your dc could choke sleeping in their own cot at home. How would you know? How often do you check on your sleeping baby at home?

Wow LeQueen can't begin to imagine what that was like, you always assume that fire alarms and things will work.. I will be checking them when we go on holiday in future!

I think anyone who was even considering leaving their children needs to rethink having read your comments

But sadly LeQ, some parents consider them to be not luxuries but essentials and therefore worth the risks, which are often downplayed in order to assuage guilt. It is a worrying trend that I have noticed in recent years. Before we had kids we said "It wont change us, we will still have our time...blah blah" and now how we laugh!

But I personally know several couples that genuinely didnt allow it to change anything, and to the detriment of their children. Its one of the reasons that my sister has decided to not have children, as she says, she is too selfish and enjoys her life too much! I respect that, and if she can understand the compromises you make as a parent then it bothers me why some parents cant.

No way would I personally leave DSs in a room.
I wouldn't be able to relax for fear of LeQueens type of horrific experience. Must have been so awful for you, scary stuff.

LeQ, I hope your post has changed a few minds on here tonight

I didnt put it clearly, couple time is essential, but not so essential that you would, taking an example at random.....leave them alone in a hotel room.

You like luxuries? I must have missed that... :o

I guess what I am saying, very badly, is that its down to details.

Yes have couple time, but dont do it at the risk of your child! And I stand by what I said earlier, if a couple genuinely believe they wont survive a holiday without a night or two off then they have bigger problems than "us time". sure its nice, but if you cant manage without it then there are issues!

Imogen how often have you heard "Oh they'll be fine/enjoy the kids club/never wake after 7pm/ encourage us to go out" blah blah.

Its not true but its what they say to try and cover their selfishness.