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to expect my DP to stay with me on my birthday when I am waiting to miscarry

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toryalane · 13/05/2012 17:38

First post, been lurking for a week but now I need to vent. Please accept my apologies for the length.

I found out I was pregnant last Sunday we were shocked but ultimately excited. I calculated I would be 7 weeks pregnant going off conception as I couldn't remember when my LMP was. On Tuesday I began to get cramps so having had a previous ectopic I went to the EPU at 2am. They gave me a blood test and an internal and told me to return Weds for a scan. Went to scan no heartbeat, just sac which was in the right place but only the size of 5 week sac. We were heartbroken, they wouldn;t do anymore and said I could have got my dates wrong - I KNOW I haven't. They want to rescan me a week on Weds. Until that point I am basically waiting to miscarry, I am frightened and every little twinge I feel I think it is starting. Today is my birthday. DP is not the most thoughtful and for my present this morning I received a paperback chicklit book I read some time ago. Family have been round today and it's been nice to see everyone, we all watched the football which ended in disappointment for me but joy for DP, he has now just come upstairs and asked to go for a pint. I just started to cry. IABU?

OP posts:
MagratGarlik · 14/05/2012 00:06

I had regular bleeding in early (and mid) pg with both mine - so I know how it feels to be permanently waiting for the miscarriage to start. I do know though that before about 8-9 weeks, it is quite normal to not detect a heartbeat, especially if scan is not transvaginal. I also measured small on scan after bleeding with ds2 at about the same stage - hospital convinced my dates were not correct,me sure they were. By 12 weeks, our dates concurred.

Please try not to worry - easier said than done, I know (but otoh, your dp should be more supportive).

my2centsis · 14/05/2012 06:24

So sorry op. I wish I could give you a big hug!

Thinking of you

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