"shagmund i have never stated that milk from another species is superior to bf..."
"...fortunately we have moved on since then where we have better nutritional choices than cavemen meat on a spit"
So we no longer have access to game, berries and fish (unless we're minted) but we have ready access to cows milk, formula, white bread and sugar? Oh, and factory farmed meat? And vegetables flown thousands of miles across the world? 
What exactly did you mean? Do you really think modern man's diet is better and more complete than the diet of a successful hunter gatherer in the paleolithic period?
"i have also accepted that my children have to become independant little beings and learn to develop that independence by being potty trained, weaned, walk using reins wherever possible"
Sorry - I can't see where stopping breastfeeding before they're ready to comes into this. I think the problem is that you see breastfeeding as = being a baby, therefore if a child is being breastfed they are somehow developmentally arrested in some important way. There is no evidence that long term breastfeeding (or natural term breastfeeding if we're going to look at it in terms of terms of normal patterns of behaviour across human history) is linked with arrested social development. Actually if we're going to go by what little evidence we have, it actually points in the other direction: that children who are breastfed for longer have better mental health in later childhood and adolescence than children who are weaned before 6 months. They are also less likely to engage in anti-social behaviour according to this study:
(note: "For each additional month of breastfeeding, the behaviour score improved. This remained valid after adjustment for socio-economic, social and other factors impacting on parenting."
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A new study from Perth?s Telethon Institute for Child Health Research has shown that children who are breastfed for longer than six months have a lower risk of mental health problems as they enter their teen years.
The research, led by Associate Professor Wendy Oddy, will be published in the next edition of The Journal of Pediatrics.
Dr Oddy said breastfeeding for a longer duration appears to have significant benefits for the mental health of the child into adolescence.
"There has been much evidence about the benefits of early breastfeeding, but the importance of this study is that it shows continued benefits from extended feeding,? Dr Oddy said.
?Given the rising prevalence of mental health problems, interventions to assist mothers to breastfeed, and to breastfeed for longer, could be of long term benefit to the community.
?As with any of these types of studies, it should be stressed that the findings do not mean that individual children that weren?t breastfed will have mental health problems, it?s about lowering the risk at a population level."
The research team analysed data from more than 2000 children involved in Western Australia?s Raine Study. Just over half were breastfed for six months or longer, 38% percent were breastfed for less than six months, eleven percent were not breastfed.
The participants underwent a mental health assessment when they were 2, 5, 8, 10, and 14 years old.
At each of the assessments, the researcher team found a link between breastfeeding duration and behaviour. For each additional month of breastfeeding, the behaviour score improved. This remained valid after adjustment for socio-economic, social and other factors impacting on parenting.
Dr Oddy said breastfeeding could help babies cope better with stress.
?There are a number of ways extended breastfeeding could assist child development. We know that breast milk is packed full of nutrients that help with the rapid brain development that occurs in the early years. It might also signal a strong mother-child attachment and these benefits may last.?