To have said to DH 'Cook your own meals in future'?

[HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer]

EVERY bloody time I cook he finds something to moan about.

'I don't fancy this'
'I don't really like this'
'You should have put X and Y in the recipe instead'
'It's overcooked' (It never is by the way, he undercooks EVERYTHING)
'Why have you done this tonight? We should have had X instead'

EVERY day I ask him what he fancies for tea that night, he always says he doesn't mind or doesn't know. He never gives any ideas for meal planning/food shopping/food preparation. Occasionally he will cook but not often.

I've told him tonight he can sort his own meals out in future as I'm sick of the moaning

Well, why wouldn't he cook? Has he no arms?

Yanbu what an arse! DH always cooks our dinner and I'm always vocally grateful for it.

He could try wearing it next time

I think he sees the cooking as my job. Which I don't really mind, as I don't work many hours. But what I do mind is his constant moaning and criticism of what I cook. He always has a 'face' on him when he's eating like he fancies something else instead.

YANBU

YABU.

You shouldn't have waited this long, taken so much criticism and you should have tipped the dinner over his head and then told him to cook his own meals from now on.

what a nob. My DH tried this once and was told in no uncertain terms that I would be delighted for him to take over the menu planning, shopping, putting away, cooking and clearing up. funnily enough he has never complained since

I would very much mind if my husband assigned something to me as a job and assigned himself the role of unreasonable boss.

He's being an ungrateful shite.

I cook twice a week, DH cooks twice a week, dd cooks once a week, ds1 cooks once a week and 1 night takeaway.

Whoever cooks, everyone's very appreciative, would never think of saying "you should have put x in, cooked it more" etc.

Take it in turns to cook in future

There are 5 of us so obviously I cook quite a lot of food anyway so it's no odds to me whether he has some or not, hence why I've cooked for him like a mug carried on cooking for this long for him.

As of tomorrow though I will be buying myself some lovely ready meals from M&S, cooking an early tea for the DCs and then he can sort himself out!

Yanbu.

I said the same to dh a few years ago and stuck to it. Same reasons as you. I haven't cooked for him since.

I would kiss the feet of anyone who made me dinner every night, never mind shopped for it too, whatever hours they worked.

Move in with me Hex, I will treat you like a goddess (though you will have to live in the shed as I have no spare room)

Good lord, OP, I am with you. Do not cook a single thing for him. Infact, I would go so far as to never make a cup of tea for him again. That must be so draining. It's hard picking what to cook, making sure you get the bits in, satisfying everyone's tastes.

Now is the time for you to buy in all the lovely things you like without having to think about anyone else.

I hope he shows at least a little consideration for anything else you do for him.

its a very nice shed with electricity.

Oh and if I tell him not to moan/make useless suggestions after we've eaten, he says I need to learn to take constructive criticism!

Apparently my Dad did this when he and my Mum were first married. He said "I don't want this". Mum said "don't eat it then", took the plate away, threw it in the bin, sat back down and carried on eating her own dinner. Again he only did it once

Moves into Kew's shed

Alternatively make him cook for a month and whinge endlessly and complain. Then he can see what it feels like

Well, I don't know if it's unreasonable, but I told DH that dinner would be at 7pm each night, whether or not he was hungry, as DS needed more of a routine than he was getting with DH's faddy ways. I am a SAHM so am happy to do most of the cooking, but I did resent having to prepare loads of different food at unpredictable times.

Dinner is always something that DS and I can eat as well (we have major food restrictions because of DS's allergies/me still breastfeeding him). If DH wants anything different at a different time, he can sort it out himself and wash all the traces of food allergens out of the kitchen himself.

It worked - and now sometimes DH even helps with the cooking!

I like your idea and what your mum did to your dad, OhdearNigel!

OP this is really not cool. My husband is good for this and always says "ooh this looks delicious!" even when it patently does not, but it's his way of saying "cheers for making the effort".

I love my dad dearly but he is a bit like this with my mums cooking at times and I take him to task for it if I observe it. I'm always telling my mum to make him cook his own dinner and she often does because of this. Leave him to it, ungrateful sod.

she take no crap off nobody, man !!!

When DP cooks (which he does often as he's much better than me he enjoys it) I love him just that little bit more. It is BLISS and a LUXURY to be cooked for and I am always grateful

When I was married to ex he never thanksed me for a meal. Once. In 12 years. That still rankles with me now so fuck knows how much this must annoy you!

Leave the bastard!

Its not constructive though is it, its nitpicking and is one of my pet hates. DP and I moved in together when I was still learning to cook and he grimaced and fake "yum yum"ed his way through many a meal. He would never have critcised my cooking because he knew I'd got back from work and done my best with ingredients I'd never prepared before.

YANBU and you definitely need to stop cooking for him. YY to getting in some lovely ready meals, just make sure he doesn't eat them when you tell him to sort his own meals out!