To have said to DH 'Cook your own meals in future'?

[HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer]

EVERY bloody time I cook he finds something to moan about.

'I don't fancy this'
'I don't really like this'
'You should have put X and Y in the recipe instead'
'It's overcooked' (It never is by the way, he undercooks EVERYTHING)
'Why have you done this tonight? We should have had X instead'

EVERY day I ask him what he fancies for tea that night, he always says he doesn't mind or doesn't know. He never gives any ideas for meal planning/food shopping/food preparation. Occasionally he will cook but not often.

I've told him tonight he can sort his own meals out in future as I'm sick of the moaning

Oh, I remember that one now!

I dont think i read all the updates though!

I never cook for DP, he is incredibly fussy and never knows what he wants. I have to decide in the morning what me and 3DC's will have, to either get it out of the freezer or pick the ingrediants up. DP never likes what I have so I dont cook for him.

He is a nightmare, he cannot decide in advance what he wants and we will wander around Asda for an hour, I will keep saying to him "What do you fancy" and he always go "I dont know what I fancy", I suggest things to him "Pizza?" "no", "curry?" "no", "chicken?" "no" "well what do you want?" "i dont know", how i havent wrapped the wire basket round his head i will never know. Does my figging head in.

wow, what an ungrateful tosspot

jots down 'figging' for future use in front of the dc

No no figging in front of the DCs!!! Google it first

Add some Harissa to his cous-cous and see how feminine he thinks it is then. I recommend 2 teaspoons per wanker serving, for a real MANS dish

Oh and dont eat it yourself, word to the wise :o

I have the same problem. Fussy DC who 'go off' foods that they've had loads of times before, no ideas or inspiration from DP, so I end up feeling like I'm making the same few meals in constant rotation. DP occasionally complains that we never have anything different, but if I make anything different the DC won't eat it. Argh.

DH is a chef but I do most of the cooking at home. He eats whatever I put in front of him, says thank you and prompts the DS's to say thank you too. Even when I serve random things like faggots and waffles. Luckily he and the DS's will eat anything and have no allergies or intolerances so I am less restricted in the range of crap I serve up :o

God YANBU OP. How do you stand it? DP cooks about 5 nights a week and he is pretty good - I have stopped eating meat recently and he adapted seamlessly, bless him - but even when I don't like it I eat it and say thanks, or say thanks and leave the bits I really can't stomach.

You know, my dad who is 'emotionally challenged' used to do this. He'd complain there wasn't enough in his portion. One night I picked up my plate and DSis's plate, dumped the contents on his, took his car keys and walked out with DSis and bought her Burger King.

I talk to my dad about once a year now. There is a reason for this!!

I sympathise OP as my DH is similar although is getting better (or maybe I'm changing). It can grind you down trying to cook a meal that is balanced, tasty, healthy and that everyone likes. I lose inspiration but then my DH says how can you not know what to cook, there's loads I like. I will never cook him anything too adventurous, never curry (because it doesn't compare to a takeaway in his opinion). Same for Chinese. Stirfries too vegetably. Doesn't like cottage pie or Chilli. I have made a list of safe meals and just stick to them but it can be soul destroying because I love cooking. Generally stick to British simple classics and Italian and every now and again he cooks, or I cook something me and the DCs like and he'll do his own. When he does cook he actually gets quite adventurous so I don't know why he gets so picky with me. The trick is to get him to cook more I suppose.

Not at all unreasonable. He sounds horrible.

YANBU

My OH has tried- interesting, not what I would normally eat, and - ah, I don't think I like those

These comments were met with, respectively, - I cooked it for the children, not you, and -don't eat then. Amazingly he found nothing wrong with either meal he doesn't fancy the idea of starving

May I please have a link to the laundry thread, if anyone has it ?

Love Ohdearnigel's mum's reaction - that's what I'd do too!

DH and I take it in turns to cook - 95% of the time, whatever we have is fine, lovely even - but occasionally one or other of us makes a mistake or it's not as good as it could be and we do mention it, but in proper constructive criticism mode, as in "this would be really nice if it had a bit less salt in it", or "maybe a bit less salt next time would be nicer".

We both do it, and we both do it to ourselves - DH made a mince dish once and sat down to eat it - he started in and said "God this is bloody tasteless, isn't it - don't think I've ever cooked a worse dish!" It wasn't that bad, tbh but it certainly wasn't his best - but he said it first so I didn't need to add to it.

Hexagonal - I think you did the right thing and am only amazed it's taken you so long to get around to it - make sure you stick to it now!

How bloody rude, of course YANBU. DH criticized the way I ironed his shirts once about 15 years ago, he has done his own ever since.

OP I can better kew's offer - please move into my spare room? I will even do the washing up and the shopping if you'd cook for me? Please?

DP will cook occasionally, but he's bloody slow so I'm usually greatful for anything when he eventually dishes up. But I always thank him and tell him how nice it is.

To be cooked for every night would be bliss and your DH is an ungrateful arse.

Ideas.

1. Just cook what you fancy, when you fancy, and what you like to eat. I don't cook that much myself, just a few times a week properly. As I get no thanks for slaving every day (from my son), so why put myself through it?

1. If DH asks "whats for dinner", point to the kitchen and say you didn't know what to do (and he's not appreciative anyway).

He may be happy with an M&S sandwich on the way home in reality. So why bother putting in the effort??

That way everyone's happy .

This just makes me think of a tweet I saw yesterday.
"my OH asked me why I watch cookery shows when I can't cook. I asked him why he watches porn......'

Oh, just kick him in the bollocks.

YANBU.
I told DH when we agreed this set up (I'm a sahm and he's at work 7-7pm) that if he moaned he could cook. Nipped that in the bud immediately. When I go back to work we will split it evenly as I'm bloody fed up of cooking now!