To be hacked off at ex pestering for MAT B1 form for Paternity leave?

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AIBU to be really pissed off that ex is hassling me to get MAT B1 form from midwife when he is not contributing financially or care wise towards his child to be? He started requesting it when I was 9 weeks, am now 25 weeks, just been diagnosed with gestational diabetes today & told him I was worried about cost of parking at hospital on top of everything else & he texts chasing this!

I don't even see why he should get paid leave when he is not going to be spending it with me or his baby. He can't even be arsed to come to scans!

Thankyou once again for your comments mumsnetters, given me a lot of strength. bogeyface I've decided not to report him to employers, I'm just not going to give him form in first place. I asked again why he wanted it to which he said that he could help me by if I have to stay in hospital as he could stay at my house & feed the cats. Jog on mate!

Am seeking advice on where I stand legally as whilst I want my child to know their father I am also extremely concerned about the psychological impact he could have.

Ultimately I am going to do the very best I can for my child and try and forget his very existence!

www.direct.gov.uk/en/parents/parentsrights/dg_4002954

But even you don't let him have PR, he can still apply to court for a contact order if he isn't happy with the amount/type of contact you offer.

I would be careful about allowing him access unsupervised if you are worried about his behaviour. You could go to your parents' house for contact (you aren't obliged to have him at yours) or something.