to think there are more horrible people in the world than nice?

[Movingmay]

I probably am. However over the last few years things that have happened to me personally have made me come to this conclusion. Views?

I am sorry for you but no, I think there are a lot more nice people in the world.

No. I think most people are basically good.

If you expect the best then most people will live up to that, but the ones that don't tend to stick in your mind more.

I asked this once I think!

I feel like there are too. I think people just....don't care so much about other people. I don't know why, but it's very sad. Of course it's a totally un-winnable argument, but I know how you feel and hope you're ok. Focus on the decent people - they are out there.

Mind you, there's a hell of a lot of ignorance in the world which can have horrible consequences.

Most homophobic, racist, disabilist, sexist people are probably basically well-meaning underneath, but their ignorance and fear causes a world of pain.

fermez its not a nice way to think is it but I am really starting to think this. Some people just don't seem to care at all about others.

I disagree and hope you cheer up soon.
I think human beings are programmed to remember bad things better than good experiences, self preservation and all. So that's why it may seem true.

OhI don't know I have recently had a few run ins with some mean, angry people who do not know me but think they have the right to yell, throw their hands up, tut at me, when at the most I made a simple error or did nothing at all.

Movingmay - YANBU. Since moving to our current house we've discovered most of our town's horrible people live right here on our road :( :( Bastards.

I think until very recently I have looked for the best in people but now I feel a bit, bitter maybe. Just today I have had a strip torn off me for something that was my fault but in no way intentional. I feel like shit TBH.

I think there are more nice people but they're quiet about it, whereas the awful ones spout awfulness wherever they go so they're more noticeable.

Here is one thread to restore your faith in humanity, and here is another.

Agree with the posters who said we tend to store up the nasty incidents/people. Sometimes when everything seems to be going wrong at once, it's almost like you keep stock of the nasties to re-affirm your opinion in the world.

Having said that, some of the most dishonest, bullying, unkind people put on a fluffy, pleasant, jolly facade in front of most people - so I think it depends how hard you dig.

imnot you have hit the nail on the head for me. Its people that don't know me and can be so angry and nasty. I just can't get my head around it.

I try to think about it like restaurant reviews.
(bear with me)
one person has a bad meal they will tell 50 people they had a bad meal
one person has a good meal they may tell no one, or maybe a few but not many.
good things happen every day, by good people to good and bad people. sadly good news is not talked about in the way bad news is.

I am sorry that you are having a hard time, but things will get better, there is good out there, even if it isnt immediately clear where.

I think the majority of people are nice.
I've worked with the public in many roles, and I do believe that there are far more nice people in the world.
And look at MN for example, how many really horrible ones have you encountered on here?

I agree with ragged we always remember the rude nasty things that people do and say over the nice kind things that happen. For example if you are driving you could have 10 people let you pull out in front of them and 1 person cut you up who are you going to come on MN and moan about?

Hear if you need an ear to cry on...or something like that! Feel free to PM

I am far far from perfesct but just could not shout at a stranger and be aggressive. DH another thing

playing devils advocate, that person who was rude and shouted at you may well be sitting on a computer somewhere saying why does nothing ever go right for me.
although the thing that made them cross was in no way your error, it still was something that went wrong for them.
if you know what i mean

Bless you fermez in a non relegious sense so I don't possibley offend and all, I might just do that. I could do with letting it out but will out myself.

I like to think there are more nice people. Sometimes people really surprise me by their kindness. Maybe thats why its such a surprise - because its rare?

It must be awful if people close to you turn out to be from the horrible set.

bythepower fab name BTW My DH has said he would react in a similar way and he is the nicest person ever but he wasn't there

Moving I am with you sometimes I feel like a child having a telling off !! If people have kids with them I usually stay quiet and just be shocked but they have no qualms tutting and muttering etc in front of my children. I had someone shouting at me the other day it is utterly horrible.

I'm kind of dreading seeing this person again. coward

imnot How did you move on from it? I'm just so bloody upset.

I think that there are far more nice people than nasty, but it's hard to keep that in mind when you've just had a bad encounter.

I find it helps to wonder what may be going wrong in that person's life to make them behave that way. That way, instead of feeling hurt, I can feel slightly compassionate, therefore negating their effect on me.

Hope you feel better about things very soon .