to think there are more horrible people in the world than nice?

[Movingmay]

I probably am. However over the last few years things that have happened to me personally have made me come to this conclusion. Views?

I like to think there's more good than bad, because if it is the other way round then thats pretty shitty. I block my ears to stories of horrible people. Obviously I know about them, but I try to remain detached.

I agree with the majority that its just that those that are horrible to us stick out more. If I think of run-ins with people Ive had in the past I can get quite wound up at times (even months possibly years after the event), but I struggle to remember that many nice things people have done for me.

Something's obviously happened with a stranger here (unless Im reading it wrong) and like a previous poster said they dont know your full story just like you dont know theirs. Yes they have obviously upset you, but maybe they just let rip as something was going on in their minds that you don't know about. I know it doesn't excuse it, but maybe they are having a really crap time ATM and kind of took it out on you. Thats the thought that would make me feel a bit better even if it wasn't true and I was just trying to make myself feel better.

Moving you have to have faith in the circle of life. It's a truth that persons that are blardy nasty eventually get their comeuppance, and not surprisingly have very few allies when they do.

In the short term I find saying "you are a fucking c*nt" a lot in my head whilst smiling benignly at them reduces that visceral urge to tear their face straight off.

YANBU, I feel like that too. Most people are "nice" to their friends or anyone who doesn't need any extra effort to be pleasant to, but that's all.

Sorry x posts there and saw that it is someone you know. Ignore my last paragraph then.

crazy stories like that make me wonder what the point in being nice at all is then if everyone is just going to be nasty anyway.

Or anyone whose help they need or who is influential in making them look good and popular.

(Cynical, moi?)

Fart - it is easy for people to be nice until the shit really hits the fan, then we will do whatever we can to save ourselves, regardless of how others will suffer. Think of the hunger games.
So most people can carry on believing that there are more nice people than horrible ones in the world cos hopefully - and probably they will never be in a position to see otherwise.

I wish I hadn't.

dont know much about the hunger games exept its like Battle Royale (also which I dont really know, but DH as mentioned that to me before), but I know you're right I just dont want to think about that and like to live in my little world of rainbows and unicorns

erm ammi some of the outbursts or handwaving have had no influence from me they are just bloody rude !!

none of us are all good or all bad.

but as soon as we do something less than ideal we get labelled 'bad'.

because someone is rude or snappy, they might be struggling with something. don't write them off, cut them a bit of slack.

agree with shockers upthread.
If you have to see the person regularly,can you just be civil from now on.Are they going through a rough time?Or had a one off bad day?Or in extreme, they have something wrong with them now?
Can you move departments, job, house,or if a relative,not go round so often?

I was going to say, that if it was people in a neighbourhood, to consider moving, but not sure it is that for you.
Perhaps they will say sorry?

YANBU I think most people are bad/selfish. But then again there are alot of nice people out there too.

Yabu - far more nice - we just hear more in the media about nasty.

Treat people nicely and nice things will happen.

Nope, definitely disagree.
Not only do i think there are far more good people than bad but of those who are bad i'd say the vast majority have lots of redeeming features anyway.

"I've also noticed that people who at first appear to be very nice and caring can be quite mean, while the gruff, even grumpy types are the ones who will actually go the extra mile for you."

That's so true, amicissimma. Apparent charm doesn't necessarily mean a thing, it might just mean the person is good at conjuring up fake smiles, has good conversational skills, and is convincing as "nice" if they want something. I've met people like this who seem quite popular but not very nice underneath. I get pretty annoyed that most people fall for their charm offensives, when there are some really lovely genuine people in the world who get overlooked because they're quieter or less socially pushy.

I don't know them, know them - live on same street. TBH I will be ignoring from now on unless an apology is forthwith.

The thing is I feel like I am always try being nice but you still get the shit, now and again.

I disagree, most people are nice- it depends how you treat them.

I think I'm going to stick by what I have said and think of most people being bad, prehaps then i won't get hurt when they act like shits.

Im sending you a hug .
And some flowers (dont know how to use the buttons for that).
You might feel a bit better in the morning.

exotic it not how you treat them some people who are bloody mardy, rude arrogant sods do not know me at all so I am not too blame for their general arrogance

amillion Thank you. its [] with thanks in for [flower]. You are right, tommorrow is a new day.

Duh

I sawa programme about Denise Bulger once and she showed the camera crew the boxes of sympathy letters and cards she had received from all over the world and kept in her loft. She read some of them out and it was very moving. She said she was convinced there are more good people in the world than bad.

.wow, I did it!
I really am quite useless at that sort of thing.Ive been trying to do that for literally months!
Thank you movingmay!