Has DH crossed a line in terms of twattishness or am I being selfish?

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I went to visit a friend who's just had a baby today. Asked DH yesterday if he could look after DD (1 year, 2 months) today. He agreed. I left about 1, said I'd be back 4, 4.30, depending on transport. Transport was awful so I rang DH just before 4.30 and said I was going to be late and could he give DD her dinner. He was so angry he put phone down on me, basically said I was out of order for making DD late for her dinner (didn't explain why he couldn't do it himself). I rang him on the way home saying what would he like to eat, he said nothing, he wasn't hungry. Got home, DD was fine, he had managed to make her some dinner (he could equally just as easily have gone to the shop had there been nothing in the house so I didn't see what the problem was.) He gave me both barrels about how annoyed he was and then went off to the pub for two and a half hours in a sulk. On his own. Am I missing something, or is that a disproportionate response to a fairly minor crime?

He sounds selfish and immature.

I don't think you've done anything wrong. He obviously doesn't think he should have to look after his own DC :(

LOL at "twatfish" though!

OK, you've started me off now: The Great Twatsby.

I agree twatfish!

Maybe he'd already planned to go to the pub and used you being back later than you thought as an excuse to flounce out and make you feel as if you were at fault. He sounds totally unreasonable and this is how domestic abuse starts. Nip it in the bud.

I think the problem was you rang him right before you were due home so he was expecting you home any minute when you were an hour? or more away?
He was a twat for hanging up on you and stroppng about feeding his daughter.

Hmmm..... you need to stamp out his tantrumming foolishness now, or it will just get worse.

Man looks after own child for slightly longer than originally anticipated shocker!

Really, he sounds ridiculously childish.

Look on the bright side though - your turn to go to the pub tomorrow night!

he's an arse

Isolated, yes, he sounds like a twat. However, what's the context? Is this typical behaviour? Were you surprised?

Unless he is thoroughbred twat, it is likely to be something else that made him act like this. Not necessarily excusable but worth thinking about. Some (immature) men feel childcare exposes their inadequacy and it can manifest in the way your dh reacted. Maybe. Or he could just be completely selfish.

IMO you should be ashamed of yourself. Shame on you for going out and expecting a grown man to look after his own child. You are a disgrace to woman kind.

Keep this one in the holster OP and go fucking bazwack when he returns home more than 5 mins late next time- 2 can play at that game- what a gob shite!

YANBU, if i thought even for a second that my DP would act like this when we have kids i'd dump him now. Serious words are needed OP.