Has DH crossed a line in terms of twattishness or am I being selfish?

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I went to visit a friend who's just had a baby today. Asked DH yesterday if he could look after DD (1 year, 2 months) today. He agreed. I left about 1, said I'd be back 4, 4.30, depending on transport. Transport was awful so I rang DH just before 4.30 and said I was going to be late and could he give DD her dinner. He was so angry he put phone down on me, basically said I was out of order for making DD late for her dinner (didn't explain why he couldn't do it himself). I rang him on the way home saying what would he like to eat, he said nothing, he wasn't hungry. Got home, DD was fine, he had managed to make her some dinner (he could equally just as easily have gone to the shop had there been nothing in the house so I didn't see what the problem was.) He gave me both barrels about how annoyed he was and then went off to the pub for two and a half hours in a sulk. On his own. Am I missing something, or is that a disproportionate response to a fairly minor crime?

What a dick.

Twat!!

Really Nagoo - you would be "fucked off"? The OP told her DH that she would be home around a particular time DEPENDING ON TRANSPORT. If that had been said to me then I wouldn't have made any plans at all to do anything until my partner was home.

nagoo, you'd be fucked off that your DH was stuck in traffic? Sounds like you and the OP's DH should be together instead.

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I agree with tidydancer - he sees child care as your responsibility and he was doing you a favour. Clearly, in his head, you took advantage of his generosity. He needs to wise up and very quickly. I think you need to have strong words about this or it will only get worse.

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Imagine if we went off to the pub for 2.5 hours to get over things, i'd never be out of the bloody place.

Twatfish rebecchi.

YANBU. what a knob.

Next time DP "makes" me give the DC their tea I'm going to insist I spend a couple of hours down the pub to recover. I'd be there every night. Brilliant

A fine example of the lesser spotted twatfish....

Just a thought but are you often late home and had you actually left your friend's at 4.30 when you rang. If this is a one off he is out of order; if you do it a lot, I'm not so sure.

I'd have to have it out with him and strip it bare.

"So let me get this straight...you went to the pub in a huff because you had to feed your daughter yes?"

Then I'd whittle it down until the only available answer was that, yes, indeed he IS a twat.

Jenny- HAHAHAHAHA @ Twatfish Rebbechi! (sp?!)

he needs to get over himself. being a bit annoyed is just about forgiveable. being so annoyed he had to award himself 2.5 hours at the pub to recover is pathetic. ffs does he take over child care the moment he gets home from well anywhere? if yes then fair enough but i severely doubt it.

Ha @ twatfish.

What a bellend.

He can't be that inconvenienced by the OP's lateness if he can piss off to the pub for a couple of hours. It's hardly saving the world, is it?

Have you thought to go to the pub for two hours occasionally when you need time to yourself?!

The OP said she be back 4, 4.30. She rang when she was due in, to say she'd be late. How late? That's the question.

If DH said he'd be in at 4.30 and I made plans to go out at half 6 and he still wasn't in, then yes, I'd be pissed off about it.

Oh, hang on. She posted at 7.20, so that means he went to the pub at 4.50?

Sorry OP, your husband is a dick, if you were only 15 mins late.

Fresh prince of bell end.

what more can I add? Twat seems to sum it up but I would agree that unless this is a one off on his part it suggests a worrying attitude to his role as a parent.

For Whom The Bell-End Tolls.

Or:

Twatfishing by J.R. Hartley.

Sounds like you should take a weekend away and leave him to it for a while :)

He had a mantrum about looking after his own child. What a baby. It's not like he had to get to work or an appointment is it.