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Has DH crossed a line in terms of twattishness or am I being selfish?

61 replies

quesadilla · 07/05/2012 19:21

I went to visit a friend who's just had a baby today. Asked DH yesterday if he could look after DD (1 year, 2 months) today. He agreed. I left about 1, said I'd be back 4, 4.30, depending on transport. Transport was awful so I rang DH just before 4.30 and said I was going to be late and could he give DD her dinner. He was so angry he put phone down on me, basically said I was out of order for making DD late for her dinner (didn't explain why he couldn't do it himself). I rang him on the way home saying what would he like to eat, he said nothing, he wasn't hungry. Got home, DD was fine, he had managed to make her some dinner (he could equally just as easily have gone to the shop had there been nothing in the house so I didn't see what the problem was.) He gave me both barrels about how annoyed he was and then went off to the pub for two and a half hours in a sulk. On his own. Am I missing something, or is that a disproportionate response to a fairly minor crime?

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SeventhEverything · 07/05/2012 19:22

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sensuallettuce · 07/05/2012 19:22

What was the crime? Confused

hermionestranger · 07/05/2012 19:22

Wanker.

gafhyb · 07/05/2012 19:22

Yes, it is. I'm assuming he hasn't had to care for DD on his own before and was finding it rather hard? Or is it something else?

cheesesarnie · 07/05/2012 19:23

this is his daughter?
hes sulking and has had to go for time out in the pub to get over it?

i may try this

Ambrosius · 07/05/2012 19:23

megatwat

TidyDancer · 07/05/2012 19:23

Oh yes, you are married to a grade A twat.

Clearly one who thinks CC is your job only.

pointythings · 07/05/2012 19:23

Dis proportionate twattishness seasoned with high-dose entitledness, childishness and selfishness. Which needs nipping in the bud now. Alternatively just nip him in the nuts. Hard.

Wheezo · 07/05/2012 19:24

Grief. What a big fat hissy fit. YANBU. How comes he doesn't feel able to parent his own daughter?

WandaDoff · 07/05/2012 19:24

Twatty McArsehole. That's him that is.

FeedingTheBirds · 07/05/2012 19:24

Wow OP, what were you thinking? Leaving a poor bewildered helpless man for a few hours and expecting him to provide some food for his own child? How selfish of you.

He sounds like a grade A prick.

ENormaSnob · 07/05/2012 19:24

Had he made arrangements to meet someone in the pub?

How late were you?

whatsallthefuss · 07/05/2012 19:25

i agree with pointy things!

EclecticShock · 07/05/2012 19:26

Maybe talk to him tomorrow to figure out what exactly it was that was such a big deal? His response sounds disproportionate.

candr · 07/05/2012 19:26

I would be having serious words with DH if he responded like that. What makes it ok for him to go to pub but you not to go out? Is it not his DD too? Does he do anything without you asking him to and can you do anything without 'checking' with him? Sounds very childish and very selfish to me. If it was me I would be tempted to mention it infront of MIL as I know she would have a go at him too.

PurplePidjin · 07/05/2012 19:26

Complete bellend Angry

BlackholesAndRevelations · 07/05/2012 19:26

Very far over the line of twatfishness! Really?! He had to go sulk because he had to make his daughtee's dinner?!

BlackholesAndRevelations · 07/05/2012 19:27

Haha- new species, the "twatfish"

Triggles · 07/05/2012 19:27

Well, if it's reasonable, I guess that's means I can go to the pub EVERY evening! Grin

Nope. He's being a twat. I cannot believe it was even a question of you "being late" from him. Is he normally this ridiculously childish? Perhaps you should bring out the birth certificate to remind him he's a father. Hmm

ImperialBlether · 07/05/2012 19:30

Sorry, I can't add to these. They're all right. You are right, too. He is a twat.

GravyHadALumpyMashBaby · 07/05/2012 19:31

Does he realise this is his child? Or does he thinks he's a mate doing afavour by babysitting?
Arsehole.

Coconutty · 07/05/2012 19:33

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ujjayi · 07/05/2012 19:34

Ridiculously over the top reaction.

FFS, if the man needs two hours in the pub to recover from making supper for his daughter then he seriously needs to get a grip.

He sounds like the DH of a friend of mine. For yours, and DDs sake, nip this in the bud right now. Her DH has behaved like this since her DD was born 9 years ago - overinflated sense of entitlement, sees looking after his own children as "doing the DW a favour" etc etc. It doesn't show any signs of abating and the marriage really shouldn't work. Except it does because she bows down into submission all the sodding time and makes excuses for him.

NagooIsBuildingAnArk · 07/05/2012 19:34

How late were you?

If I had something planned and DH said he would be home at 4.30 and called at 4.30 to say he wasn't coming home for a couple of hours I'd be fucked off.

FeakAndWeeble · 07/05/2012 19:36

May I be the first to say...

Leave the bastard

Wink

But seriously though, twatfish just about sums him up.

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