Cafe Rouge staff, was he rude?

[LadyWithEDS]

I was having a meal with my dd, I am 24 years older than her. We finished our main and asked for the dessert menu, he said oh are you two sisters? I said it is obvious we are not and laughed along with him, though I felt stabby towards him on dd's behalf and left no tip in the end and I am a good tipper, I even put it down in cash rather than added to the card to make sure that the tip goes direct to who ever served me.

I always think it is really insulting when people who want business or tips do this to the daughter, it makes my skin crawl. I used to get that from people like that when I was young, who were flattering my Mum and she would go on and on to anyone who would listen how everyone thought we were sisters, she is 30 years older than me.

so AIBU? was he just after a tip and didn't care if he upset my dd or do people really think that two women together with a huge age gap, they they are sisters rather than Mother and Daughter?

Poor waiter, that will teach him to be friendly in future.
I'm sure next time he will make sure he doesn't make any light hearted comments or compliments, or even make eye contact in case he offends some one.

FFS get a grip, MASSIVE over reaction
And very mean not to leave a tip. Was the service terrible? If not, you didn't leave a tip for someone who gave you good service and made the mistake of making a cheesy compliment.
VERY VERY UNREASONABLE.

He was trying to be nice, no need to be so oversensitive, creating offense where there is none. You are weird to be so prickly.

Wtaf?! YABU!!!!

Poor fella

Maybe he thought you were attractive? (on the outside obviously, as opposed to sense of humour wise)

YABU. Take is a compliment instead of whinging.

My brother is 20 years younger than me, and people think I am his mother. People always think I am my son's grandmother. Shrugs.

YABVU.

Heavens! You do sound like rather hard work. Perhaps you ought to warn waiting staff that a light-hearted remark will be guaranteed to cause offence and could they perhaps keep up a surly silence when dealing with you.

YABU. Totally.

Ok, I have to know, was your daughter upset? And if so, why?

I was having such a bad day but after reading this I feel better. YABU. I look about 16 and dp gets mistaken for my dad sometimes, I laugh,because in the grand scheme of things it really is not an issue.

YABU and overreacted.

You could have asked how he knew, when you left your nuns habits at home?

If your daughter wasn´t bothered, then you shouldn´t have been imo.

But I don´t really see how it can be a compliment to one without being an insult to the other.

Always thought it was a twatty thing to say tbh.

man alive I hope he sneezes on your cutlery next time!

You would have been more insulted had he said to your daughter nice to see you out with your grandma. Honestly, can't see what the poor waiter has done wrong.

I get this all the time and my DM is 80 - its just called making small talk and having a bit of a giggle, we just laugh about it & my mother would leave an even bigger tip - you do sound like a bit of a misery.

How old is your daughter? Not sure if that has any relevance anyway.

I think someone forgot to take their happy pill this morning.

WTF? It's standard waiter banter designed to flatter the mother I.e. The tipper.

I agree with everyone.

Catsmamma - I love he phrase Man Alive.

Oh for the love of mike! I've never said this on here before but

GET A GRIP!

WTAF?

I also love the phrase For the love of mike