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Breastfeeding profile pictures- more than likely will cause a bunfight

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WhaleOilBeefHookedIWill · 30/04/2012 12:22

Im pro breastfeeding- 100%. But I really don't like seeing a woman with an exposed breast (and nipple showing) feeding her child as a profile pic. In a photo album fine, but for people to see that photo when they post on a friend of theres wall or comment on someone elses status with no choice but to see it is not right imo.
AIBU? (I know I am really but just wanted to muster up a discussion to distract me from decoratingwhile away the hours)

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WorraLiberty · 30/04/2012 13:29

He was such a gentleman too, or so I thought Grin

TheRhubarb · 30/04/2012 13:31

What were his scrabble words then? Was he trying to send you subtle messages do you think and then finally got naffed off that you were just playing an honest game of scrabble?

Poor taste for me would be anything rude. Do you think that a picture of a breastfeeding woman on her private profile pic (presuming that it's not a public profile for all to see) is rude Tiddles?

WorraLiberty · 30/04/2012 13:36

Haha! There's a little chat box on the side.

He posted 'good luck'

I posted 'thanks, you too'

Then after a couple of hours, he said 'do you like my profile pic'?

I (thinking that was an odd thing to ask) said 'Yes, nice couch'

Then he asked if I liked his cock too....and then I saw why he asked Shock

I gave him a proper dressing down about how many young kids are on FB...called him a filthy pervert, reported him and blocked him.

Shame really cos I was winning the game by about 190 points.

Aribura · 30/04/2012 13:38

lol at assuming topless men are different. I wouldn't want to see that either.

Kayano · 30/04/2012 13:38

I actually hate seeing it

Because it makes me sad that I couldn't do it Sad I know it's not deliberate but all the 'natural' talk makes Me sad as if I am some inferior pretends mother.

The term 'artificial feeding' also doesn't help this.

TheCountessOlenska · 30/04/2012 13:40

I wouldn't post a bf-ing picture as my profile pic - not sure why, feels a bit intimate for a profile pic maybe? Plus people who aren't your friends can see it.

I have got a picture of me bf-ing in one of my facebook albums though - can't see any boob, just baby head! It's just part of a series of photos of early days with DD, no big deal at all.

DuelingFanjo · 30/04/2012 13:54

OP, did you know you can block or restrict other people info on facebook?

really, what they put on their facebook is their business so rather than get your knicker5s twisted you could do the sensible thing and take control of what you see by twiddling with your settings a bit.

minimisschief · 30/04/2012 13:57

if you are on the attitude of its just a breast who cares. i highly doubt you feel the same way if you saw some random topless women in a profile picture. or your daughters

just a thought

CrispyCod · 30/04/2012 14:04

Grin Grin @ Worra - that's priceless.

And Rhubarb Any public pic of a mum breastfeeding is bloody brilliant as it challenges these outdated and ridiculous views that breasts are sexual objects that should be hidden away. Are we that narrow-minded that every time we see a woman's breast we are either offended or repulsed? As for the poor woman, she is judged as attention-seeking when actually, she's bloody brave for publicly challenging peoples outdated views on breastfeeding.

Spot on!

TheRhubarb · 30/04/2012 14:05

mini, completely different. Unfortunately any topless shots of women are deemed to be sexually tittilating. That's just our society. Breasts are seen as sexual objects for the purpose of turning men on.

To show a breast as it should be used, for the purpose of which it was made, is taking a stand against this attitude. I would love it if women could be topless as men often are and for no-one to really give a shit. After all, breasts are not genitalia.

But oh no, us women have to remain covered up you know because men just can't help themselves the poor little poppets.

Pictures of breastfeeding is natural and beautiful. I would, like many others, question the motives of just a purely topless shot on facebook, but the motives of a breastfeeding shot is just the same as the motives of those who post pics of their babies. It's a new mum showing off her baby in a way in which she thinks is beautiful. It's not to everyone's taste just as I don't like having to look at other peoples brats, but that's my choice. You choose to be offended, you choose to feel disgust, you choose to judge that person.

I'm sure plenty of people don't like my profile pic either. Whatever.

YonWhaleFish · 30/04/2012 14:06

I find loads of profile pictures attention seeking. If they really annoy me I just hide the person.

Like one person who constantly puts up pictures of their baby "oo look mummy's precious angel had a shit today" so I hide em. Likewise the girl who thinks those pouty topless shots where you hide your nipples are great. Or guys with their tops off. Or people humping each other. I don't give a shit about other people's kids beyond them being alive and well.

Firawla · 30/04/2012 14:10

I wouldn't be offended to see this but i would be thinking wtf - as i dont really get why people would choose this picture for the whole world to see! I am pro bf too but it seems a weird thing to have as ur profile pic

minipie · 30/04/2012 14:13

YABU.

Would you have problem with someone posting a pic of them bottle feeding their child as a profile pic?

A pic of them breastfeeding is IMO no different.

Both show the person is a little bit baby-obsessed Grin but neither is offensive.

SeaHouses · 30/04/2012 14:13

Sometimes I'd quite like it if the world (or maybe just the internet) revolved around me and I could ban random things that I happened to personally dislike.

I'd ban all FB profile pics with cats in them, those face-in-hole type profile pics where people are dressed as Kirk and on the Starship Enterprise, and most of all, pictures of bald people who haven't got a hat on. What exhibitionists they are.

YonWhaleFish · 30/04/2012 14:14

I'd ban all FB profile pics with cats in them

YABU. Because I like cats.

TheRhubarb · 30/04/2012 14:15

"the whole world to see" it amazes me that people don't know how to use facebook properly yet.

If this woman knows how to use facebook then she would know that if she changed her privacy settings, the only people able to see her profile pic and any other information about her would be the people she has befriended. Not even friends of friends can see your pics or posts if you don't want them to. Facebook is as public or as private as you want it to be. So the whole world will not see those private breastfeeding pics, only those people closest to you, who have an interest in you, will see them.

She ain't posting them on Google you know!

thezoobmeister · 30/04/2012 14:16

Live and let live is what I say.

You've got a right to your feelings, so I won't tell you to change them (as if that was possible anyway).

But you've no right to tell other people what they should or shouldn't use as their profile picture. They're not hurting anyone and you don't have to look if you don't like it.

thezoobmeister · 30/04/2012 14:18

Seahouses - my FB alter-ego is Darth Vader - how very dare you!

TheRhubarb · 30/04/2012 14:19

Why do it?

Because she's presumably proud of being a mum. She wants to share what she considers to be beautiful pics with her family and friends. She maybe wanted to challenge the no-nipple facebook rule, she wants to show off her baby, etc etc.

Why do people have pics of their own grinning offspring? Or their pet cat? Or their brand new sports car? Or a pic of themselves as a baby? Because they think that pic sums them up and this woman obviously thought that her feeding her baby summed up her life at that moment - as a new mum.

How petty of others to judge her for it. Let me see your own profile pics so I can judge you too.

SeaHouses · 30/04/2012 14:26

Zoob, as it happens, I have a profile pic of me as Obi Wan.

It is not comparable to Star Trek profile pics in any way.

Although from now on I shall be concerned when our paths cross on MN.

TiddlesTheNaughtyTortoise · 30/04/2012 14:28

No rhubarb I don't think a private profile pic of a woman BF is rude, just in poor taste like I said. But then I think a lot of stuff on Facebook is in poor taste, attention seeking and smug.

YonWhaleFish · 30/04/2012 14:29

Judging someone's picture to be a positive thing is still judging it. You're still applying all your own thoughts and feelings to it - the same as someone who looks and doesn't particularly want to see it.

If others judge it not to their taste that doesn't make them wrong, it just means it's time to use the "hide" button or defriend or whatever.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 30/04/2012 14:30

Hide them then. It's possible on FB. You can rest assured that they will neither know, nor care.

LoopyFroopy · 30/04/2012 14:32

Rhubarb - I learnt today that photos used as profile pictures on FB are actually available for the world to see, despite the most rigorous of privacy settings.
Except, I'm not sure the world would be that interested in seeing a mother Breastfeeding her baby. Unless there is such a thing as a lactation fetishist.
Some of you must have led very sheltered lives to be able to get worked up at the sight of a woman feeding her baby with her breast. Is that not what they are there for? Confused

TheRhubarb · 30/04/2012 14:36

Loopy, are you sure? Because I know from people who have checked this with my own profile, that if they search for me using my name, just the silhouette comes up. If I have blocked that person then nothing comes up.

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