This is my first time posting on Mumsnet but really would like to know everyone's views on this.
My father in law died last week & his funeral is next Tuesday. My husband wants our 2 year old son to go to the funeral. I've managed to get him to see sense that a church service & burial are no place for a 2 year old but he's still insisting that he goes to the wake.
We've not told DS that Grandad is dead. He didn't see an awful lot of him so to be honest I don't think he'll really realise that he's no longer around. (Obviously when he's older we'll tell him & show him photos etc). So I don't want him in a situation where there is likely to be a lot of weeping & wailing (my in laws do like to play up to situations & my m-in-law loves being the centre of attention). My Mum will be looking after DS while I go to the funeral & if he does attend it will mean her doing a 40 min drive to somewhere shes never been before alone (& having to deal with a car seat for the first time!) or me doing the round trip to collect him after the service or my Mum having to entertain DS at the in laws house for the hour or so of the service (none of which I think are fair to my Mum & I'll be 28 weeks pregnant)
The service is at 2.30 so by the time the wake starts I'd imagine it'll be about 4ish which is getting to food, bath & bed time anyway (remembering the 40 min drive home).
So what have other Mnetters done in this situation?