Do have dyed my hair red?

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I've blonde all my life, naturally when i was little, but increasingly with the help of chemicals. I've thought about going red lots of times. I went to the hairdressers this afternoon, I'd had a really bad morning with DD, and was getting annoyed with DH's parenting interference well-meaning support. Something just flipped when I got to the hairdressers, and asked her to colour my hair red. I love it, I think I look younger and it doesn't drown my skin out as much. Got home and DH hates it, apparently he's always hated this colour, although never mentioned it in previous discussions. He's sort of muttered "well. if you like it....." but has now gone off sulking.

AIBU to stick with the red? Should I be back at the hairdresser trying to get it toned down?

YANBU

he is though and a twat

Screw it! If you like it, if you think it looks good, keep it and good for you

I always wanted to go red but was always too scared...I've been blonde, brunette, and purple or electric blue at times, and back to my natural mousey blonde but would love a gorgeous rich natural red colour

It's your hair, do what you want with it I've only recently changed mine from red.

Oh also - picture maybe?

I think you're really, really gusty in a really good way, and I am very envious

Sorry, and title should have said "to have dyed my hair red?"

I think this might be the start of my mid life crisis, until recently I wouldn't have done it as I had very responsible, serious City job

YANBU! Red rocks, ignore said sulky man-child, he'll get over it.

YADNBU, red hair is amazing. Your DH is a fool.

One word of warning though, red hair needs A LOT of upkeep because the colour fades so quickly. And when you decide you fancy a change, the faded gingery tones are nigh on impossible to get rid off.

Voice of bitter experience coz whatever I do to my hair now, it fades back to an orangy ginger within 3 weeks

Pachelbel does this mean the ridiculously expensive colour protect shampoo I bought from the hairdresser will do no good?

I think men who get arsey about their partner's hairstyles are weird. Honestly. You are happy, he should be happy.

I went from dark brunette to red last year and am so much happier.

Well done!

No, NBU at all to keep it, its your hair and if you like it then you should not change it for DH....let him sulk, he'll soon get used to it.

I used to have blonde hair (dyed) When i went back to natural colour (dark brown) Dh commeneted that he preferred blonde but accepted that it's my hair and if i'm not happy with it i will change it. It was never an issue for him.

I dont particularly like the way DH has his hair cut either but would never ask him to change as he is happy with it.

I m now a very dark red/brown as i feel this suits me better with my colouring. I love it and it staying!!!

If your DH cant accept it then it is his problem not yours!!!

I am glad you have posted this, because i've done the opposite, so i am interested in the replies.

I have gone brunette with highlights, after having more trashy 'interesting' colours. My DP doesn't like it and wants me to go back blonde.

I used to find I'd get longer between colours when I used them, so I think they do make a difference.
Unfortunately I don't think anything can stop reds fading faster than browns and blondes.

Enjoy the colour though, red hair is fabulous
I'm a little jealous tbh, I'd love to go red or purple again but finances won't allow it at the moment.

Of course you should keep it, bet it looks great. Wish I was brave enough to do it.

Your hair your choice.

Ignore his sulking.

Pachelbel is indeed right about the upkeep but the good news is is the home colouring kits are just as good as salon colouring. L'Oreal casting creme gloss do lovely shades of red and leave your hair really shiny, Like you have deep conditioned it.

It's your hair and your confidence. He should be happy that you feel better about yourself. Stuff'em. :o

They are also always on offer in Superdrug!

What does he know anyway? You have it how you like and tell him to bog off. :)

Yes to Loreal casting creme gloss.

YANBU. Your hair, your rules!

Mine is currently (faded) bright turquoise and purple, with a little bit of pink in there too. I'm also naturally blonde but don't tend to stay blonde for long at the moment, only in between colours when it fades. I keep toying with the idea of going for a bit of red, so I say you rock and your hair does too

YANBU - I would love to go red as I am so bored of the blonde colour I've had for the last 30 years. My problem is my roots are so grey the re-growth would look horendous. Enjoy your red hair and tell DP to get stuffed - he'll get used to it.

Your hair sounds lovely! Enjoy your red hair, ignore your DP!

If you want an idea of what it looks like, just look at Tim Healy's wig in Benidorm (that was not a good moment of realisation!)

YABU if only because if it is a perm then it is an absolute bitch to get rid of and go back to your natural colour with! I am light mousey/dark blonde naturally and was RED for years. Not red, RED :o And I it took me 5 years to grow it out fully (I have just below shoulder length hair) as I didnt want to go down the colour strip/recolour route.

But as for your DHs attitude? Tell him to bollocks. Infact, tell him that unless he starts dying his hair and pubes the minute you spot a bit of grey so he will remain his original colour until the day he dies, you will have whatever colour you damn well like!