Ok, DSS is 6, and is quite a big boy for his age (tall, not fat!) During the day he is totally dry but has never been dry at night. DH, his mum and I have all taken the same approach in terms of not stressing him about it but things are getting worse as he gets older - despite him wearing night nappies and having a mattress protector, he is still overflowing and often waking up in wet clothes and sheets. He drinks a lot, has had several tests showing ketones in urine but has tested negative for diabetes.
DSS is, and always has been, a very heavy sleeper. His mum has talked to his doctor who refuses to do anything until he's 7. Lifting does not work as he just will not wake up so we have been trying to limit fluids in the evenings. He always goes to the toilet before bed but...here's the problem. His mum will always give him a drink to take to bed, and it is always empty by the morning. He drinks it pretty much as soon as she leaves the room just after tucking him in (I've been at hers at bedtime and heard him do this - cheeky monkey!)
When he stays at ours each weekend, we don't let him have a drink as we explain it'll help him to get through the night without wetting. He accepts this but for a couple of weeks he's been really pushing for a drink, and DH has 'caved' by saying he'll bring a drink up when we go to bed. DSS then wakes up in the middle of the night, drinks it all and wakes up wet :(
Tonight when we put him to bed, DH again promised a drink. I then added 'can you make us a promise...if you do wake up and decide to have a drink, will you then go and have a wee straight afterwards?'...DSS looked very dubious and said he just wanted to stay in bed! He has a night light in his room and in the hallway. He is next door to the toilet. AIBU in trying to move things forward and WIBU to speak to DH about stopping bedtime drinks? Am just soooo fed up of stinky wet sheets and condescending looks from others when they see him in night nappies, plus the overall feeling of going along with unhelpful routines...