To think the term Attachment Parenting.....

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.....is offensive? Because the inference is if you don't follow that theory to the letter you are not attached, or as attached to your child?

I was not attached to DC because I showered, went to the toilet, cooked dinner etc alone apart from the times they lay on the toilet floor with me and left them to it in the next room, playing, gurgling, staring into space, whatever pleased them. I think even attachment parenting as a label has shades.

There you go, I was doing attachment parenting and didn't even know it, none of it planned though just instinct and to survive those early years. Does that make my ultra trendy as I was doing before it seemed to be in or have a name - that's a first.

[lequeen] that remind me I did a kids saturday club years ago and there was a toddler art class on in the next room , a mum came out with a screaming toddler and mum said to him cameron this behaviour is not acceptable but we wil discuss it in the car yep a snotty teary 2 yr old is up for the big discussion , I sniggeredpoor cameron i wonder what he is up to now ,

Parenting attracts do many theorists and gurus. Most best ignored in my opinion.

Best practise is to do what feels right for you.

Personally I think attachment parenting is a silly name, what's unattached parenting??

hmmm; people getting verrrry uppity about certain styles of parenting, slagging off one style as creating 'wobbly lipped children' in one breath and then complaining that we all do it our way and mums should just be mums in the next...hypocritical much?

I agree with the person who said that this reeks of the old positive comments about breastfeeding = an attack on formula feeding, and makes me think the formula feeders must have massive insecurities to wang on about it so much

personally, I'm grateful there's people out there willing to stick a label on this stuff so I can research it and decide for myself if it's for me or not, or parts of it are. I'm not a faffy useless human being, I'm a tough-ass bossy old farmer, i had rigid ideas about bedtimes and not making rods for my own back and rearing snivelly insecure children before I had my baby - I changed my mind pretty quickly though once she was here and was glad to be able to tap something into google and research on cosleeping. Now I co sleep, breastfeed and use a sling - shock horror! Don't feel the need to be slagging anybody off though I actually do believe the old live and let live thing rather than just saying it and contradicting myself seconds after!

"Errrr so duelling you think because my dc did 3 days of cc (some time waaaaaaay back they can't even remember) and spent their formative years entirely with me they aren't as attached as your who is in nursery 5 days a week and has several carers?"

I didn't mean to say that, sorry if I did.

what I meant to say was that the idea od attachment parenting rejects practices like CIO/CC because it believes that those kinds of things do not fit under the banner of an attachment style. Or at least that is how I see it.

I don't believe that my child is less attached to me because he is in a nursery; I believe he has formed attachements with many other people, maybe as many as your children have formed.

I do however believe that CIO/CC can be damaging for children and I don't think I could eber be in the same space as my child and listen to him crying without going to comfort him and stop him from crying.

different strokes for different folks.

I don't think anyone who does CC/CIO is following an attachment parenting style. I really can't see how that would work.

and ... no I didn't say that at all. Reading back I just can't see where you got that from to be honest.

yabu kinda if you let it bother you, people just use phrases to explain what they are doing rather than list all the different aspects of their parenting style! and I think everyone thinks that their way is the best way to a certain extent or they would do it differently! my friend and I describe ourselves as semi detached parents! and we're very happy with our parenting styles!

Funny, I never needed to research anything when about to become a parent.

It's not a flipping exam. Do what feels right. For me that's drinking wine whilst breastfeeding and giving porridge at 4 months shoot me

Duelling I bet you anything your DC is left to cry sometimes in nursery, even if only for a bit, quite like at home when there is more than one child. Nursery staff have a ratio of 3:1 I think, so being left to cry in inevitable I think.

It doesn't offend me , it just makes me laugh. Its just another daft name , parents seem to like daft names for things these days , with their BLW , free play and playdates .[old gimmer ]

and LeQ lol at the constant explaining. I explain stuff to the DC until the cows come home, but if I am tired and had enough of questions, my answer becomes 'just because' OK? Stop asking questions before I have to kill you.

wtf is 'free play' ? how is it different to ordinary play?

It does sound smug, smug, smug. I hadn't heard of UP so had a look at the UP thread in Parenting. It was ahem, eye opening.

oh the UP thread is always good for a laugh.

I don't know what 'free play ' is I've read it on MN though.

Agree with Usual.

As usual.

I find all these terms silly. People have been doing them for decades and suddenly someone invents a name, writes a book and makes pots of money.
I have never felt the need to label any of my parenting. I have never treated my baby as an accessory and 'worn' them but I have put them in a sling and carried them around. I haven't done BLW ,but I have given them finger food. I could go on and add others -UP for example.
Yet again I agree with LeQueen- why on earth explain any of your parenting and why would anyone be interested?

Oh don't get me started on baby wearing

"Duelling I bet you anything your DC is left to cry sometimes in nursery, even if only for a bit, quite like at home when there is more than one child. Nursery staff have a ratio of 3:1 I think, so being left to cry in inevitable I think."

oh yes, he will be. But not for long periods of time thankfully. They definitely don't do CIO and CC :)

Like the wet,UP,father with 2 year old and 'darling,do you think it a good idea to throw that stone?'. Darling thought it was-cue for wailing for unfortunate DC that was in the way. Whatever happened to common sense?