To go for a long weekend to New York and leave the children

[anychocswilldo]

Yesterday my mum offered to pay for me to go with her to New York in November, it would be a long weekend, prob from Friday to Monday or Tuesday. Dc's will b 5 and 19 months when I go, they would be with their dad, my dh, who is fine with it. I've never been away from them before but I'd really like to go. So aibu to go to another country leaving my dc's here or should I get a grip? I'd just like some different perspectives please because the more I think about it the more likely I am to say no.

GO GO GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sooooooooooo envious!

You haven't said what part of it you're unhappy with?

Lucky you though...tell your Mum I'll go with her

Oh, please do it!

It will be great to go with your mum and if the kids are o.k. with your DH taking care of them, what's not to like?

Go for it. I think it's good for children to learn that their mum or dad can't always be there every second of every day. Bring them back prezzies and don't feel guilty. Just enjoy it.

I went to Canada to see my godfather for (as it turned out) the last time, with my mum, for two weeks, when ddtwins were just leaving nappies. DP plus his and my sisters managed just fine. GO!

Go go go
Kids will be fine, DH will love it, your mum will love it
.... And so will you

Cassette I think you need to re-read the OP

In fairness I refused an offer from my DH to pay for me to visit my brother in Oz when his twins were born as we couldnt afford for us all to go, so I know what you mean about feeling guilty, BUT I would have been gone for at least 2 weeks and we had 5 kids, and it would have cost us a family holiday. Enjoy your weekend! Especially as you're not paying (so your not depriving your kids of anything) and he's happy with it.

Thanks everyone, I really want to go! Just feel guilty and odd leaving them when I've never been away from them before. Dh is great with them so no worries there.

DH and I did this last week! Our DC's are 7, 5 and almost 2. It was really really hard for me as the 5 year old was really sad about the whole thing so I felt really guilty for 3 months before we went - we nearly didn't book it. However they waved us off with a smile and were brilliant the whole time we were away (3 nights). We had a fab time and it was great to find time to be ourselves. As a bonus coming home was something to be looked forward to as well because we knew they would be waiting for us.

So I agree - Do it do it do it and have fun x

I have regularly travelled to different countries (EU and US) since my DCs were 12 months old (it's a requirement for work). DH manages just fine, though these days, DD1 often asks Grandma to come and stay as she hates Daddy brushing her hair!

Go, enjoy the time with your mum and the great welcome home you'll get!

I have done this a few times. It is good for the children to know that their father can cope fine.

Go, have fun, enjoy yourself!

I've been to New York twice and left my dc with their Dad. I loved it! It is nerve wracking leaving them, but they are with the one other person in the world that loves them as much as you do, and I always took comfort in the fact that flights from New York are so frequent that you could get back very quickly should anything happen. Plus when you are in NY, you will be so busy that the time will fly by and you wont have time to dwell on missing your dc.

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Go go go . If I give you a list would you pick up some stuff for me from Bloomingdales . Have a fab time you lucky spud!!

That moment when you come home and they give you the biggest hug in the world - fabulous.... The older one will then ruin it by racking through your suitcase for the prezzies

You r all right, I was being stupid! It will b hard leaving them but they will love having daddy to themselves all weekend! We'll book it this weekend, that way I can't back out. Thanks everyone

It's just a few days, you should go for it. I'm going myself for a wedding on my own, leaving 4 year old and 11 month old.

GO... Kids will be fine with Dad for a weekend! Dont miis a great opportunity!

Try Ellens stardust dinner, their singing waiters are fab and brekkie is divine x

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Here's a grip, use it!

Honestly you'll have a fabulous time and any sane person will think the same. I'm v jealous - I've never been to NY and would love it

Thanks tiredmam we'll try it. Am very excited and wracked with guilt

Go go go! I understand why u feel guilty, my parents take dd abroad a lot and she loves it but if I had the opp to go on hol and leave her I would be apprehensive. Its a trip of a lifetime and bonding time with your mum so u should go for it.

Think of all the cool presents you could bring them back!