To go for a long weekend to New York and leave the children

[anychocswilldo]

Yesterday my mum offered to pay for me to go with her to New York in November, it would be a long weekend, prob from Friday to Monday or Tuesday. Dc's will b 5 and 19 months when I go, they would be with their dad, my dh, who is fine with it. I've never been away from them before but I'd really like to go. So aibu to go to another country leaving my dc's here or should I get a grip? I'd just like some different perspectives please because the more I think about it the more likely I am to say no.

Only warning I'd give is that it'd be better to book for September rather than November (hitting the pavements far more pleasant in NY when it's still warm).

It wouldn't cross my mind for a second NOT to go!

Dh and I are having a weekend away next month, before DC2 is born in August. We are just going to the next island to stay in a spa hotel but I cannot believe how excited I am about getting 2 consecutive lie-ins

Will be my first night not under the same roof as DS (19mo).

I left my 6 year old and 3 year old with their dad while me and my mum went to new York. We left on the Thursday and arrived back on the Tuesday. All survived. But a jealous family member kept giving me grief.

GO! GO! GO! It's good all round.

1. it's good for you to have a break and have some fun on your own.
2. It's good for your DH to have some sole dad-time with DC's.
3. It's actually good for your children to see that their mother has a life that has nothing to do with them. A slightly mysterious, delightful and glamorous life in her own right.

Assuage any guilt by buying a few Christmas presents, which will be cheaper in New York than UK.

Go and have a fabulous time!

GO! But maybe have a couple of practice runs where you leave them overnight first? I say this not because I don't think DH won't cope, but because it will make you less anxious when you're over there. You don't want to spoil your break worrying about what's going on at home, so get a couple of practice runs in first.

Have a great time.

Wilsonfrickett I know dh can cope coz I quite often work nights and he's fine then. I am going to go, it will b great. But I will buy Christmas presents like bowerbird said.

Another vote for GO! :o

Gooooooo

I want to come too! I love NYC

I bet your dh will do what mine does when faced with 2 dc on his own (he is perfectly capable he is just pretending when he calls me every 5 minutes) and that is decamp to the in-laws for at least 1 meal if not all!

They love it, having him with the gc without evil mummy saying no choccy whilst in bed reading a story after cleaning teeth! Genuinely it will be good for you and you will feel refreshed. Also I would jump at spending the time with my dm on our own, especially after a recent health scare - its precious time x

YABU.

A weekend in NYC is far too short.

Go
Your children will have a lovely time at home with their dad and you will make your mum very happy.

Definitely make the most of the opportunity!! I went to New York with DH when mine were 3 and 1 and left them with my folks. It was WONDERFUL! And the children't don't even remember

If you decide not to go, can I go with your mum instead?

Do it! I am going alone to a relatives wedding in October and will be away five nights, I can't wait and am excited already!! Dc are 5, 3 and 2.
I know I will miss them but I know they will be fine with daddy.

GGGGGGGGGGGGGGOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Of course you should go.

Go!

that is all.

x

Op you have to go now, you have set the record for a unanimous AIBU!

why wouldnt you go?

If your husband was invited to go away for a weekend with his Dad would you expect him not to go?

Just GO!

GO!!

DH and I did it when the DCs were 4.5 and 15 months. MIL stayed at our house and spoiled them rotten all weekend.

Have a FAB FAB time - don't worry about the kids - they'll have a ball with Daddy.

I went at the end of Nov and it was amazing as all the xmas dec were up - I would definitely disagree re going in September.

We left DS1 at 18mths and I was 20 wk pg with DS2 - it was amazing and not that cold really as you are on the go constantly. We went in January one year when it was snowing - now that was COLD!!

Enjoy!!!!!!!

Go - dh and I have been away on our own for at least 1 four night trip each year since ds was 9 months old. Last year was our 10th wedding anniversary and we went to the us for 10 nights of gorgeous lazing on the beach.

I feel no guilt and dcs think they are getting a special holiday by having grandad look after them or going to stay at his house (dcs were 7 & 9 last year)
The only grief that I've had is from a few mums at school but hey ho,

We've done this every year since DD was 10 months old. New York! Her Grandma comes to stay in our house and DH go off. We do holiday with DD too. DD (now nearly 4) loves it as she gets her beloved Grandma all to herself in her own home.

GO!