To be totally fed up of living in a shit tip created by DH and DCs and I'm the only mug clearing it up?

[sensesworkingovertime]

My day so far:-

Up at 6am putting out bins.
In a nutshell, don't need to spell it out to other mums with school age kids, getting kids up, clothes ready, lunches made, kits ready, homework ready and off to school.
Food shopping
washing in/hung outside
hoovering done
Here's the biggy;- phoning council re the problems left with the (free)cavity wall insulation yesterday and spending nigh on 2-3 hours on phone to idiots who cannot give me straight answer.
Cancelling much needed hair app due to previous prob.
And sandwiched in between all this shit, CLEANING UP ALL THE CRAP THAT DH AND DCs ARE CONSTANTLY LEAVING AROUND THE HOUSE SO THAT THE PLACE GENERALLY LOOKS LIKE A COMPLETE SHIT TIP. I am sick of constantly 'nagging' (us women always nag don't we - sarcasm) so that other people get off their arses and help.

Rant over.....and breathe.

YABU.

Hours on the phone to the council: Not DH or DCs fault.

Get DH and DC to do stuff. All school age children should be able to lay out clothes and pack bags with kits and homework the day before.

If you are at home during the day with no DC, hoovering, food shopping etc is fairly standard. Or do you think you should do nothing while DC are at school?

How does a typical day run when you aren't on the phone for several hours?

What knowitall said.

Just dont do it.

It sounds like you are most angry about your dh and dc treating you like their servant.

Stop picking up their crap. Just stop.

Dh and I don't 'nag' our kids. We direct them - "dd, did you mean to leave that plate there?" or simply "you need to put your clothes in the washing." Everyone mucks in.

Know it all, not a great name to use if you know very little because you obviously didn't bother to read the title of my message and focused on the fact that you thought I was simple moaning about doing the shopping etc when this wasn't my point at all. My point was being taken for granted and at no point did I say it WAS my DH and DCs fault about the council, did I?

To be honest, you sound like you don't have an ounce of sympathy in your body and are on MN to get peoples backs up. There are other ways to say YABU without being so critical.

Forget it folks, I mistakenly took MN for being a support network for mums not a place to jump on someones thread, critisize it and probably leave yourselves feeling that you are probably a much better DW/DM than they are.
For goodness sake, don't log onto the Mental Health thread you lot, you'll probably tell someone who has severe depression to 'pull themselves together'.

Errm you do realise you posted in am I being unreasonable don't you? Probably not the best place if your not willing to accept peoples comments which aren't what you wanted!

I'm with you OP, I totally know how you feel. Can I add to your rant that I'm pissed off at being the only one in the house who doesn't splash piss on the bathroom floor and being the only one who ever cleans it up.

Welcome to the internet.

Hey I was only sharing the solution that works for me

Jesus, give the OP a break! Don't we all have days like these? I certainly do. Good to get the rant done. Have a glass of wine, listen to some music, read a book whatever...

you have my sympathy senses.
I feel like screaming at times. I've also had major problems with the muppets who do the cavity wall - enough to try a saint.

I don't have the solution, sorry. I just accept that housework will never be done completely no matter what.

Senses have a and calm down a bit, stop shouting at Mumsnet, it is pointless.

I understand! (not that I'm saying others don't). I am always clearing up after my DP. My DD doesn't count she is only 10 months. I wish I could just stop, & leave it, but I can't. I'm a bit of a control freak, and I do like things to be done, so you could argue that I've made a rod for my own back. I often think I will go on strike, but the thought of all that mess is too much
Maybe you have just had a bad day & things seem worse today?

I'm with you on this no matter how much i try mess just seems to keep comin, and always my problem.

Enjoy your rant now run a hot bath and lock the door!

YANBU

In fact you may be me!

I feel incensed that I spend hours every day picking up crap left lying around the house by my family. Today I've come back from work and spent 2 hours cleaning and tidying the kitchen. Because nobody else has lifted a finger in two days (still not caught up from Saturday when I was out all day. Kids and DH devastated kitchen and I was busy doing other stuff on Sunday and didn't clean.

I'm sick of telling dc's to pick things up/put plates in washer/clothes off floor.

They ALWAYS wait until they're told because they know that sometimes I just lose heart and do it myself, when I'm in a hurry or demoralised from asking.

I'm going to go downstairs in a minute and find that dd (12) has made a mess in the kitchen and walked away leaving it, after I've spent 2 hours cleaning EVERYTHING up. I know. I can hear her rustling around and getting stuff out. She never puts anything back. Lids off. Dirty knives on the side. Dirty plates left on the table.

I need some to go with my whine.

I hear ya op! I feel frustrated by having to tell the dc's and dh to pick up their own shit. I have started to threaten to take their things to the charity shop, for anything they fail to pick up repeatedly.

YANBU. If I clean the house whilst DH is away on a work trip, it is still clean & tidy 3 days later. If I clean the house whilst DH is here, it is a shit tip within 45 mins (approx).

Examples: dirty teaspoons left on kitchen worktop (plus a little splash of tea for me to clean up ), cup and plate left in lounge, dirty clothes on bedroom floor, wet towel folded up extra small so it will NEVER dry thrown over the side of the bath, 10 x cups and 10 x plates with toast crumbs (plus attendant rings on the desk) strewn over study... Need I go on?

I'm so bored of having the same argument with him every week that I could cry. He is great in tons of other ways though so I am trying to live with it .

Dare I suggest that the Op has an appointment with Ms PMS?

(sounds like one of my pms rages)

YANBU

I know how you feel. My DH and kids are very messy too. I don't mind doing housework but when it takes me an hour of tidying up their stuff before I can whizz the hoover round it really annoys me.

chunky I really hope your comment was tongue in cheek. PMS or not, I don't think many women want to be treated like a skivvy!

YANBU. I have the same problem. Dh is actually worse than the dc. I am, however, slowly training them as right now I can cope but in a couple of weeks I will be heavily pregnant/have newborn to deal with too.
Hexagonal that was me Monday morning. 1 hour of clearing stuff from one room before I could even hoover.
It's so frustrating. I have in the past spent 2 hours cleaning the kitchen till it sparkles and have dh come home and leave crumbs all over worktop.

It's absolutely infuriating isn't it bebe11?

I am currently sitting on the sofa with the laptop; I will be hoovering the carpet in this room in a few minute and I've just scanned the room. DH has left a jumper on the floor, 2 pairs of trainers on the floor, glasses on the mantlepiece and radiator, and a coat just dumped on the floor at the other end of the room. Never mind, it will all get dumped on his side of the bed ready for him to put away later

senses YANBU

I think we all have days like that where we have had enough.

The omly way to stop feeling unappreciated is to get vberyone else in the house to do their bit, depending on age. Even a 5 yo can help tidy toys away before bed etc.

Get a list of jobs and put it on the fridge. You will then feel you aren't doing everything and they will stop treating you like a servant.