To be totally fed up of living in a shit tip created by DH and DCs and I'm the only mug clearing it up?

[sensesworkingovertime]

My day so far:-

Up at 6am putting out bins.
In a nutshell, don't need to spell it out to other mums with school age kids, getting kids up, clothes ready, lunches made, kits ready, homework ready and off to school.
Food shopping
washing in/hung outside
hoovering done
Here's the biggy;- phoning council re the problems left with the (free)cavity wall insulation yesterday and spending nigh on 2-3 hours on phone to idiots who cannot give me straight answer.
Cancelling much needed hair app due to previous prob.
And sandwiched in between all this shit, CLEANING UP ALL THE CRAP THAT DH AND DCs ARE CONSTANTLY LEAVING AROUND THE HOUSE SO THAT THE PLACE GENERALLY LOOKS LIKE A COMPLETE SHIT TIP. I am sick of constantly 'nagging' (us women always nag don't we - sarcasm) so that other people get off their arses and help.

Rant over.....and breathe.

I've started to get the dcs to do chores now as I think they need to do something. They are 7 and 4.
I remember reading on a post here once that was about remembering that we are not raising children, we are raising adults.
It's always stuck with me and I realised that running after the dcs and picking up their stuff is actually not doing them any favours at all.

sorry for the rant.... in other words you are not being unreasonable :)

exexe - good point well made...& on that note I will check my 2 have picked up their Hama beads dropped on their floor...

YANBU - I know exactly how you feel. I am expected to do everything...clean house, take care of child, do shopping, pay bills, etc. etc. etc. I work from home so my DH seems to think that I can do other things all day long at home...when really I can't...I AM WORKING.

He comes home takes his smelly socks off and sticks them in a crease of the sofa, asks what's for dinner and then gets onto his online golf game and sits there and plays that all night in between having a sports game streaming on the ipad, his phone, the spare laptop and SKY sports on the TV at the same time.

I get fed up too! Can't stand it....meanwhile our back hall has needing sanding and painting for nearly 2 years now, our old car that needs to be scrapped has been sitting in our driveway for 4 years now, our fence needs fixing, etc, etc. I harp on about one or all of these things at least once a week....I refuse to add these tasks to my list of everything else I have to do.

So yes I get your RANT and I sympathise COMPLETELY!!!

Thanks to those of you (you know who you are) who had some sense of humour and a bit (or a lot) of sympathy on this one.

Sirzy, unfortunately there isn't a thread called 'can I have some sympathy please' otherwise I would have used that:-

'Errm you do realise you posted in am I being unreasonable don't you? Probably not the best place if your not willing to accept peoples comments which aren't what you wanted!'

But my point to those of you who immediately pulled me apart was that you did not appear to read my title and seem to be hinting that I should not be cheesed off about being treated like a skivvy. Also if I'm not WIZZING ROUND THE HOUSE CLEANING UP SHITE then I'm not worthy to be called a SAHM or PTWM because this should be at the top of my job description!

Good advice from a lot of you though, could have been partially right about the PMT, who the hell knows? Could I get someone to suck out all my oestrogen and progesterone, give me a groundhog day for April 24th and see what happens please?

4 going on 14, thanks, loved your rant, you have my total sympathy, it's the curse of the modern age for us DW/DPs isn't it. DH is currently on his laptop infront of the snooker and has also just been fiddling with computer in kids room, god knows why. As long as it's got buttons, who cares?

Meanwhile I too have a million and one jobs with the house that need sorting that I also refuse to add to the endless list of crap!

senseworkingovertime may I suggest a big box in the corner. Anything left lying around, lob it in the box. There may be tears and tantrums when they realise something precious is mixed in with half eaten chocolate bars and muddy football boots, but they won't leave it lying around again. Then announce on a regular basis that 'in x hour(s) the box will be emptied into the dustbin, grab your stuff now while you still can'

forgot, anything still in the box goes in the bin.

YANBU. I only have OH at the moment, DC1 on the way, but find it frustrating enough when I have to keep asking OH to not leave his dirty bits of washing scattered around the house amongst other things (I don't clear it up for him because I want him to learn so I ask him to sort it out himself, but this hasn't solved the problem yet, he still does it!). I can only imagine how bad it will be with several kids leaving mess around as well.

Senses would like to offer and sympathy.
That's all.

YANBU

I spent today cleaning 5 downstairs rooms. Picked DCs up and took dog to park and returned to Lego all over the table (dinner almost ready), no homework done (at all, all night), mud all over freshly mopped floor, uniforms spread over living room/conservatory/shower room, complaints about 'nothing to eat' and bloody sore dishpan hands. Add to that complaints about the vacuum wire being a trip hazard, the house stinking of meths from the burner out of DS's chemistry set and purple spillage (home made red cabbage universal indicator) all down the white cupboard doors and on the floor (again, freshly mopped) DCs spent almost the entire evening arguing to the point I scream myself hoarse then I get "...Mummy...can I " at which point everyone's surprised when I say "Absolutely not, you can all sod off!"

Once again, YANBU.

Around that special time of the month is ladies have, general life crap gets on my nerves. A lot.

And the men and boys in my house know when I say, "move it or lose it"- they need to move whatever is lying around or it goes in the bin.

Within reason of course-I have thrown out a few pairs of dh trainers because I was sick of asking him to put them on the shoe rack. Same goes for golf equipment

I know I sound a bit unhinged, but it works!

Keeping it coming, it's time for Cinders to make a stand! Seriously, thanks everyone for your contributions and suggestions.

Kladdkaka - like your idea of the box in the corner thing but I can imagine that round here it won't be long before 'the box' and 'my house' have swapped roles, my house full of shite will go to the tip/charity shop and I will happily live in a box. Might even punch myself a few air holes.

YANBU but have lost my voice today for all the reminding I have done today...

Read most of thread but not all - as it is rather long. Also sympathise OP and frequently feel this way....however I have realised that I have been 'babying' my dc (8 and nearly 10). I have only recently got them to scrape their plates and stack them in the dishwasher after a meal . I plan to incrementally get them to do more and more as clearly they are more than capable of pulling their weight and I can't believe it hadn't occurred to me before.

read 'the pile at the bottom of the stairs' - christina hopkinson. it made me realise mine/ours is a universal issue and laugh at it rather than rant at it..well it did for the week or so i was reading the book anyway ;-)