to ask you what i should do about 10 year old and new baby?

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I have posted here due to more traffic. Need answers quickly!!!!!

I am pregnant with DC4. We told DC today. DD2 and 3 are happy DD1 (10) burst in to tears, said she doesn't want a horrible baby! And that she has to put up with her sisters who are pains already.

Since then she has been full of attitude and barley spoken to me.

What would you do? boarding school is tempting me

I was thinking that I would let her come to the 20 week scan, all being well. The outfit idea is a good one as she is a fashionista!!! I'm going to leave the baby subject to one side at the moment and concentrate on time with her.

We have this now brightness! They take it in turns, we also have a tv upstairs.

its not that big a gap, esp as there are siblings inbetween, and re the tv they take it in turns my dd naps so they can watch what they want then and we do have one other tv, my elder 4 are boys and there are plenty of things that they will all watch or the elder ones will go off and do their own thing.

yes focus on her and then when it gets nearer the time involve her a bit more, just dont make a big deal out of at the moment :)

Agree 5 madthings, its not a big age gap especially as I have a 7 year old and 3 yearold too.

i can see it as more of a gap if you just had your eldest and then had a new baby, but as she has had siblings inbetwen, tis not new to her, so its not like she has been an only for a huge amount of time.

mine are 12, 9, 7, 4 and 16mths :) do they find each other annoying at times? hell yes, but do they love each other, YES and dd has recently learned to walk, the boys LOVED it, sitting at each end of the living room and getting her to walk from one to the other and back again, clapping adn cheering her, she loved the attention! adn they love seeing her learn new things and she loves her brothers she says 'bubas' and is always thrilled when they are home from school.

i think its natural for your eldest to be worried and have concerns, just support her through it and i am sure it will work out just fine in the end :)

I was 10 when my Dsis was born. I don't remember any feelings either way tbh?

I did help out a lot with lookng after her - which I didn't mind.

Perhaps your DD is, as suggested, more embarrassed by the though of you and your DH being sexually active still. Kids don't like to think of their oldies doing 'it'.

Hope she comes around soon.

Thanks super. How do you get on with your sibling now?

Your DD was me when I was 13!!!

My DMum told me that she was PG with number 5, I was DC2. At the time the youngest DSis was barely 16 months old when we were told. I was very quiet and went to my room and cried.

DMum came up to see me and asked me why I was so upset. I said that DSis had only just started walking and that it wasn't fair to bring another baby in when she was still so young.

I struggled to come to terms with it, until my one and only DBrother was actually born! I fell in love with him and even now (he's 24 and I'm 37) he is my favourite sibling.

Make her involved in the whole thing. Let her help choose names (I chose my DBro's name and he has the same initials as me), let her help choose clothes. Let her be a big part of it and she will change her mind I'm sure. I can't tell you why I felt that way. I was growing up and just saw things in a different light I think. She will be fine. But don't push her away, please.

I'm glad it worked out in the end. I won't push her away, I have to be the parent, she is just a little girl. I must admit part of me is cross though hormones