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Original poster

Just....AAAAAARGH I HATE HIM

60 replies

Bumblefeck · 22/04/2012 20:01

I am just so rage filled I am gonna explode.

We are currently at PIL's house and FIL, the vile creature that he is, has just managed to ensure he never sees his grandson again

We aarrived last night, FIL pissed out of his face and decides to follow around DS, 3 and over-tired, saying he needs a haircut, he needs to be a man and then he is gonna get his arse skelped and he would be the one to do it Angry

I get DS to bed and asleep and OH convinces me to go to my friends house as planned, OH was staying in and promised to make sure that FIL went nowhere near DS's room, and kept him away from him in the morning if he was drinking.

I came back this morning to pick OH and DS up to go visit somebody else and apparently this morning, already drunk again FIL called DS a "fucking english twat" Angry Angry

I swear to god, we go home tomorrow and that disguting piece of crap is not coming within 10 miles of my child ever again

Rant over

OP posts:
scuzy · 22/04/2012 20:03

yanbu he was drunk and chasing your 3 yr old??? i would have left there and then!!! had he a scissors?

Megatron · 22/04/2012 20:04

Why are you still there? I would have left last night when it all started.

DublinMammy · 22/04/2012 20:04

Jesus he sounds horrific, don't go anywhere near him again.

sensuallettuce · 22/04/2012 20:06

He sounds lovely Hmm

Is he Scottish?

Birdsgottafly · 22/04/2012 20:06

This is abuse and it is up to you or your DH to protect your child.

Why are you subjecting your child to the abusive behaviour of an alcoholic?

GrahamTribe · 22/04/2012 20:07

Why was DS going to "get his arse skelped"? Why didn't you tell FIL to fuck right off there and then? And why didn't you leave then? A drunk isn't appropriate company for a child and certainly not if he's offensive.

Birdsgottafly · 22/04/2012 20:08

Btw, if he is an alcoholic, it is you and your DH that is equally responsible for the ill treatment of your child, there was no reason for him tobe in the house, you are putting him in that postion/danger.

Bambino81 · 22/04/2012 20:08

Everytime you get asked to go and see him and forget how bad he is, look back at this post.

Drunks have no place in a child's life, at all.

DollysDrawers · 22/04/2012 20:08

It doesn't matter if he's Scottish/Welsh/Irish, he should not be behaving like that around your child and I, in NO way would have left my DS in a house with him around.

DublinMammy · 22/04/2012 20:09

Oh! Missed the bit where you are still there - I would have bailed out after turning up this morning and he was already pissed.....

Original poster
Bumblefeck · 22/04/2012 20:10

I stayed because OH somehow managed to convince me it would be alright (god knows how)

We've been out all day today, DS is now in bed and first thing in the morning we are out of here, never to return

I am so angry with FIL and most of all myself for agreeing to even come here in the first place

OP posts:
BumpingFuglies · 22/04/2012 20:10

Birds, it's not abuse, it's a pissed GF. There's a difference.

OP, you've got the right idea though. Don't subject yourselves to it again.

mamij · 22/04/2012 20:11

Why didn't you take DS away with you?! I'd have been worried about the safety of my DCs left there.

TheSockPuppet · 22/04/2012 20:11

sensual, why did you ask if he was Scottish? If he was then what on earth does that have to do with anything? Hmm

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 22/04/2012 20:13

TheSockPuppet, possibly because the drunken thug made a comment about OP's DS being English? And maybe because of the colloquialism he used?

BumpingFuglies · 22/04/2012 20:14

The language is unacceptable, the drunkeness is unacceptable. OP knows this and wants a rant, not judgement about why she's still there.

sensuallettuce · 22/04/2012 20:14

Sorry - it was the English twat thing - didn't mean to offend what I meant to say is what nationality is he which has no bearing at all on the behaviour was just being nosey.

Vvvv sorry Thanks

Monty27 · 22/04/2012 20:14

Sensual Hmm. What's that got to do with the price of eggs?

What Sock says.

Monty27 · 22/04/2012 20:15

Crossed post.

Birdsgottafly · 22/04/2012 20:17

Birds, it's not abuse, it's a pissed GF

Your FIL has been verbally abusive to your child and if this carries on,it will become emotional.

You are minimising this, which is a worry, especially if your DH does the same.

DollysDrawers · 22/04/2012 20:18

Birds, Bumping is not the OP.

TheSockPuppet · 22/04/2012 20:18

alliwant, he could be Irish or welsh too.

BumpingFuglies · 22/04/2012 20:19

Birds it was me that said that, not OP. I'm not minimising it, I'm being realistic. Pissed up people say stupid stuff, the OP is mad because FIL was pissed, not because he was malicious.

BumpingFuglies · 22/04/2012 20:19

Or rather, malicious intent.

LydiaWickham · 22/04/2012 20:20

If your DS is asleep and you are there and can make sure your FIL gets nowhere near hi, it's ok to wait until morning, a lesson learned the hard way, you don't go there again, and do'nt let your DH take DS on his own.