DH and weekend housework. AIBU?

[GonnaBuildAHouse]

I am a SAHM. 4 dc's.
During the week, I do all the housework. This is fine. Dh comes home and doesn't have to do much.
At the weekend I still have the same housework to do - school clothes, work clothes, football kit etc need washing, hoovering still needs doing otherwise we would drown in a sea of dog hairs. Again, this is fine, I'm happy to do it, I don't complain that I still do it at the weekend. (dh does stuff around the house, he's not lazy)
But....... every single bloody weekend, he makes nice comments about how I too could have a break at the weekend if I did the housey stuff during the week.
So what the crappity feck does he think I do all week? Sit on my arse and MN all day? (ahem)
Has he not noticed that the house is reasonably tidy because I do this stuff every single day?
Does he think his and the dc uniform is going to wash itself?
I am genuinely happy to do it, I'm just a little pissed at the fact that he clearly thinks I don't do anything during the week and use the weekend to catch up.

So, WIBU to leave the washing, the dishwasher, the hoovering, the dog walking, sorting the dc packed lunches, and every other thing I do (I would still look after the baby) for a couple of days, so he can see that I'm not just having cups of tea and watching Jeremy Kyle?

Again, I am more than happy in the role I play at home. Dh is not lazy. I just want him to realise that I am busy during the week too.

Yes, just skip the housework for a couple of days, If he doesn't notice, then the truth may be that actually you are doing more housework than is necessary. (Housework is sometimes just a way to waste women's time.)

YANBU.

Do and report back what happens lol

My dh made a comment once about how I coud do better to keep on top of the washing/drying/ironing bollocks that is the bain of my life.

Then the washing machine broke, and reality hit.

If anyone finds a way to keep on top of it,please tell me how. I'm constantly washing/drying/ironing and putting away.

YANBU at all. Don't do it for a bit longer so he really gets the message

Typed a long reply and realised it was basically what SGB said

Outraged - our washing machine broke last year - dh said we would wait a couple of weeks before replacing it. Within three days we had to wade through piles of dirty clothes!
I don't think he realises what needs doing.

I do the housework all week too and at the weekend we kind of muck in together although he'll do most. He's in the kitchen right now washing up :)

I do have to point out it needs doing though otherwise he prob wouldn't!

Euphemia - he's not meaning to be disrespectful, I think he thinks he's making genuinely helpful comments.

Ha! When we moved over here and into this house, DH seemed to think that a washing machine was pretty low priority and that we could always use his mum's (15 minute drive away).
I pretty soon disabused him of that notion, especially as DS was in cloth nappies!

Personally the 'strike' thing is passive aggressive and childish imo. It much more reasonable to talk it through and point out that you do all these things all the time and that if he thinks you're just 'catching up' on the weekend he could perhaps lend a little hand by getting his own laundry in... etc.

I remember my washing machine broke, with four muck magnets kids,I often did them in the bath. It took me a couple of months to get a new one but I thought it was Christmas when it arrived.

I'm a SAHM and I do try to leave things like hoovering etc at the weekends.

But why isn't your DH helping with some of the things you're doing. Surely walking the dog doesn't come under housework and should be a family thing at the weekends.

In fairness though, you don't NEED to do masses of housework at the weekend. Washing school uniforms and football kit means putting them in the washing machine then hanging out/dryer. Life's too short for ironing. And school age kids can fold and put away their own clothes. In fact why not get them to put their own school stuff in the machine themselves?

I don't believe hooevering needs doing EVERY day. No one will die if its left on a Saturday and Sunday

things like loading the dishwasher obviously need doing daily, and he should share that task, as should the school age kids.

In other words - hes being a bit of a plonker, but tbh you sound a bit precious about having to do so much over a weekend. Chill a bit!

Bebe - I think a strike might be quite satisfying though :o

I'm a SAHM with school aged kids and a dog.

I hoover thoroughly on a Friday and we survive til Monday...even though he's a long haired white dog scruffy fucker

The uniforms get chucked in the machine after school on Friday too.

Packed lunches are made Monday morning

So really it just leaves the cooking, minimal cleaning/washing up and dog walking which we both share at weekends.

Why not try doing no laundry and no hoovering at the weekend - do it on week days instead? OK more work in the week but a proper break at the w/end and more family time? Or you could cook the meals for the weekend in the week? I don't think your dh is saying you are not busy in the week, more that he would like you to have a break. He may be prepared to do something extra in the week to help.

I know lots of couples with a SAHM who don't do housework at the weekend apart from cooking (not everyone even does this ime) and washing up - although tbh I don't think using the washing machine is onerous in any way. I know some folk insist on hoovering every day but imo twice a week would be plenty.

Tinkerbel - that's sort of my point though, I don't do loads at the weekend, just enough to stop it blocking us up, and the house tends to stay messy - which seems to add to dh thinking I've left it like that all week.

I am a SAHM - at weekends I do the uniforms and cook or we go out, nothing else. Been doing this for about a year now and it's lovely as feels like a proper weekend. You don't have to do housework at the weekends. It all gets cleared up on the Monday. It's much easier to crack on when dh is out at work anyway.

Probably going to get a torrent of abuse here, but I am a single mum, work full time and have no hired help, save for nursery at the moment. But I do it all (cleaning/cooking/ironing etc)...... I have a really tidy/clean home, but all the chores dont take all day every day?

So either I'm getting it all wrong (doubt it), am supermum (possibly ;) ) or actually you perhaps could work your time a bit better?

Not a dig I promise, I just cannot understand how you would be able to fill your time all the time!

What do you mean by 'messy?' - toys everywhere?

If we're busy or out, stuff gets left. If we're in, I prefer to potter about and get the bare minimum done, so I don't spend Monday to Wednesday trying to catch up whilst toddler wrangling at the same time :)

We have to hoover every day. Not sure where it all comes from, but if we don't it looks awful! (light coloured carpets, I suppose) But DH is just as likely to hoover as I am, so not worried in that respect.

We would never survive without a washing machine. Ever.