To want to know where all the other tantrumming toddlers are?

[Magneto]

Because I feel like I am the only one to have one.

No matter where I take ds, eventually he will tantrum. He's tired, wants to walk, wants a carry, wants some food, not that food, doesn't want to get in the pram, wants a drink, doesn't want a drink, doesn't want to go in the sling, doesn't want to walk, wants to go over there, doesn't want to go that way.... On and on and on.

I can take him to the park, to soft play, to the supermarket or in the garden. It doesn't matter. He screams louder than any other child I've ever heard. He throws himself on the floor, bangs his head on things.

And all the while every other child for miles around is perfectly well behaved.

It's not fair.

Ive got one too, its not just you. Wants to be in the buggy, not in the buggy, carried, not carried by me, walking, not walking that way, in the puddle but not wet, hungry but doesnt want a sandwich etc etc etc

lol

i have one

i avoid doing as many of the things you outlined in OP and when all else fails i use bribary

"tis only a phase......."

bribery

come hold my hand and you'll see you are not alone!

My DD went mad when having some new shoes fitted in John Lewis yesterday. Didn't want the lady to touch her feet at all! Screamed the place down and the lady acted insulted, like no other toddler had not liked having shoes fitted before.

She's not normally like that, but it's not just yours!

They exist believe me!

Mine used to tantrum indoors so no-one knew what we went through Lol

We'd get comments like "Oh you're so lucky they never throw a hissy"

I was tempted to get a camera and record them

DS2 is my second tantrumming toddler, DS1 was a nightmare too.

I have a 2 year old and a 3 and half year old and they are both at it ALL the time. DS usually has an epic strop when we leave an exciting place, whereas dd is a general fusspot (a bit like you describe - pick me up, put me down, want a carry, want to WALK, want lunch, not that, want CHEESE, only CHEESE, more CHEESE, want to go that way, want to sit down, want to go home, not in car....you get the picture!).

We had an hour long tantrum because I dared to make pasta twirls and not dinosaurs! Most of ours are not in public though, although we do have issues with sharing, so they are usually fun!

I used to love that advert where the Mum got down on the floor in the Supermarket and had a full on tantrum in front of her toddler

Mine is laid on the wooden floor battering the hell out of it with his feet and hands.

The reason? Because his brother's spoon has a pattern on it.

DS has a wobbly regularly because he can't "reach" the toy laying 5cm away from him and mummy doesn't want to pick it up and place into his hands. Similar "no reach" situations include; no reach mummy (2cm away) no reach food (right in front) and no reach foot( don't even ask)!

We keep them locked in a cupboard because they are so irritating HTH

Well this is certainly making me feel better

Ds is only 20 months so I am bracing myself for a few more years of this. am I being too optimistic to hope he will get better when he can understand and communicate more?

He headbutted me yesterday (by accident - my face was in the way of his flailing head ) and split my lip open. I didn't even notice until I had carted him down 4 flights of stairs and out of the museum, ds slung over my shoulder in a firemans lift and screaming "heyyyyyy! Nooooooo!" we must have looked a sight.

Then he sat on the floor sobbing at the entrance to the museum while I tried to get the pram sorted.

What caused this? I went through a door he didn't want to go through.

My now 15 year old rarely went anywhere between the ages of 2 to 4 due to tantrums. :shudder:

Haven't you read the cutted up pear thread in mn's classics?

Cutted up pear? Not seen that one, I'll go and look.

I feel for you. DS is 2 and a half and has at least one tantrum a day, or if not a tantrum a physical refusal to do something like getting dressed or changing a nappy. If I don't have time to humour him I end up wrestling with a very strong toddler. It's tiring and at times quite upsetting! Sorry no advice really but you're definitely not alone

My DD is also 20 months, and I am having a particularly horrendous challenging day with her. She does have tantrums, not majorly excessive, but she does not listen AT ALL. Not one bit. I cannot count how many times I have used the word "no" today and removed her from a bin, water bowl, drawer etc etc. I am so sick of the sound of my own voice. I know she's a toddler and it's normal...but please someone tell me that one day a firm "No" and 'the stare' will be enough to stop the behaviour?!!!! As opposed to getting up and physically moving the grinning, laughing little devil angel, only for her to return back to the undesired object/area 5 seconds later!

I was getting broody, but now I'm starting to have second thoughts.

I have one too- my dc2 is sooooo moody, it's like having a teenager. When we are out it's seems like I am the only one with two screaming children. My dc1 is also quite 'spirited'! I totally empathise with you all and think I must be a crap mum at times ....maybe it will get easier... Won't it?

OP- you are not alone. there's are thousands of us!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/1301196-If-my-3yo-had-access-to-AIBU

No you're not alone. I also have one, he's happy to tantrum anywhere, any time with minimal provocation

The amount of times I've had to rugby-hold my DS out of various places, legs flailing, arms thrashing and loud wailing. Even out of Marks and Spencers What really got to me was that he would also play having a tantrum - I've got videos of him making me take something of his, then carefully lowering himself onto the floor and howling, exactly like the real thing, and then getting up and doing it all again.

He is much better now he can talk more (2.5)