To want to know where all the other tantrumming toddlers are?

[Magneto]

Because I feel like I am the only one to have one.

No matter where I take ds, eventually he will tantrum. He's tired, wants to walk, wants a carry, wants some food, not that food, doesn't want to get in the pram, wants a drink, doesn't want a drink, doesn't want to go in the sling, doesn't want to walk, wants to go over there, doesn't want to go that way.... On and on and on.

I can take him to the park, to soft play, to the supermarket or in the garden. It doesn't matter. He screams louder than any other child I've ever heard. He throws himself on the floor, bangs his head on things.

And all the while every other child for miles around is perfectly well behaved.

It's not fair.

They are out there, my youngest are just starting to get into it (not looking forward to it).

All the other parents out there smiling, are smiling because they know how it feels when your child goes off in public and at that moment thanking god they are not you.

My oldest didn't trantrum too often but when he did it was epic, I remember carrying him out of several places horizontally in my arms whilst he was yelling his head off. If I put him down he'd have run straight back to whatever it was he wanted.

i have had to stop going to church as my 2 are very "spirited too"

DS2 is large and strong, its like wresting a very small strong dolphin

Thanks madmouse and gaviscon. I have already started putting together a few bits for the flight - have got a set of little cars and some puzzles from the pound shop, a pack of crayons we got at a party yesterday, some mini tupperware pots for snacks etc. eek!

Oh I have one!

First two I could count the number of tantrums they had on one hand. 3rd one has more than made up for my smugness of having two angels in comparison.

If you say no to him for any reason what so ever he will have a complete meltdown. I tried stopping him from helping himself to crisps for breakfast this morning and boy did I pay for it.

The good thing is they don't last for too long (unless tired)

I've got one too! In the supermarket yesterday he wouldn't let go of the melon he'd been holding all the way around in order for it to be scanned. Cue a huge meltdown when I tried to extract it from his vice like grip.

I actually had to go and get another one so it could be scanned. He didn't let it go until we got home and cut him a slice!

You are absolutely not alone OP.

You are not alone. My 4.3 y.o. has finally turned the corner. Finally. He's been a tantrum master since his first birthday.

I, too, was convinced that mine was the only one who had so many tantrums in public...until he started school nursery his tantrums started to fade. Then I realized there were plenty of other hellraisers out there. I just never noticed them due to being completely overwhelmed and consumed by my own hellcat.

Don't worry---it's not you. It's them!! Those that stare the most either had little angels are or completely sympathetic to your plight.

Dancegirl
"People who say their child has never had a tantrum are either
a) lying
b) telling the truth but will have massive problems later on"

This has just reminded me of a conversation I once had with a Mum who claimed her eldest (a DD) had never really had a tantrum so when her youngest (a DS) had one she genuinely didn't realise what was happening.

She had left her dad minding the DS and something set him off on a wobbler. DS had got to the lying on the ground screaming stage when his Mum came in and saw him like that. She immediately panicked and thought he was hurt or ill so, without waiting to get the full story from her dad, snatched him up and ran out of the house to the doctor's surgery just down the road. Of course the shock of this sudden action calmed the DS down and by the time she arrived panting at the surgery saying that there was something wrong with him he was back to normal. The doctors had a look and assured her nothing was wrong.

When she got home her indignant Dad explained what had happened and she was mortified with embarassment.

Mine is having a huge tantrum right now because he wanted lemon curd on his toast & has now changed his mind & wants jam...luckily we're at home so he can have a quick cool down in his cot.

I have 2! They are 13 and 19!! Just wait until they are taller than you and still do the "want to go out, don't want to go out, want a new coat but not that one, want something to eat but NOT what's in the house", etc, etc!!

My dd's on ever have hissy fits in the house, DD2 has been much more difficult than DD1, I just think DD1 cba to throw a hissy, it is more the attitude we get from her.

DD2 sounds just like you describe, wants to walk, wants to be in the buggy, wants to be carried on and on and on. I have actually filmed DD2 having a tantrum once as my mother did not believe me as DD2 is so well behaved when my mum is here.
DD2 also has a will of iron and whines incessantly, HV said be consistent and don't give in until she actually says what she wants/needs or shows me if she cant say it, 18 months on and it is just starting to sink in with her that DH and I wont even entertain her until she stops whining.

This too will pass, it is hard, it may take a while, you may go grey and age overnight but it will pass